When you have a short attention span you can set yourself to focus only for short times. Set up 10 minute goals and create a competition with yourself to achieve them. E.g. I’ll finish 2 math sums in these 10 mins. Also keep a minute ringer to bring you back to the task. Create some value or relevance or challenge to what you are studying. At the end of each short time frame do some active movement like running on the spot 10 times. Try to write your distracting thoughts that you can return to later way your mind is trained to know you will not neglect what it presents to you. Check if this is pure;ly a problem of keeping attention or are you disturbed by anything. Then you can work to heal what disturbs you by understanding and releasing such blocked emotions with the help of a psychotherapist and by taking appropriate action that makes you less affected by the disturbing matters if they continue to exist in the present.

You probably have to resolve some past hurts and wounds and inner child work and regression therapy can help. You would need to be more comfortable with managing boundaries with others both physically and verbally so you feel safer with people. When someone criticizes us and we take it to heart it means we don’t have our psychological boundary existing that helps us to sort out which comments we will bother with and which we will simply ignore. Similarly when someone stands too close to us we may lack the skill of setting boundaries tactfully by moving away or letting the person know to move a little. These are skills that you can take training in with a life coach or a counselor and are covered in any assertiveness training program. This way you will have more control over how much to share with others or where and how to set limits with others as appropriate.

It would be good to go in for counseling along with the medication and slowly taper off medications. Counselling can be very effective in getting a person to - 1. to be clear about their goals in relationships and life,2. in skill training to manage these – inter personal skills as most goals of life and career need us to manage relationships and people in getting their co-operation, 3. In using cognitive approaches to strengthen motivation and 4. In healing the impact of past trauma that make us sabotage our goals, values and relationships. Many psychotherapies enable the power of the mind especially the subconscious mind and also restore the power of our neural and energy systems. Additionally managing routines through the day by planning few hours at a time with small activities helps such as – 1. Moderate exercise at least 4 times a week with either walks, yoga, aerobics or tai chi as per your choice.2. Pursue some cultural activities with arts, music etc that interests you 3. Volunteering in a small capacity with an ngo. 4.Activities for day to day management – buying vegetables, grocery shopping etc 5. Cleaning and clearing spaces helps Depression is often about letting go past hurts and failures, creating expectations that match your capacity and your resources, letting go expectations that are other people’s standards of success and being flexible to pursue what is possible in your life not simply be rigid about what you planned for your life. Understanding one’s mistakes and others bad behavior with us as limitations and therefore forgiving oneself can be valuable. One can have plans and expectations and then remain open to what life brings us in terms of problems, challenges and opportunities. Counseling can help to manage this with insights that help you to think in positive ways first and then take action in a thought through way. Doing a daily gratitude and thanks giving for all that you have or have experienced in your life helps to regain balance.

Mistakes are stepping stones that actually make us aware of what works for us and what doesn’t. There is a saying “There is no failure, its only feedback.” Feedback is simply information about our own choices, values and goals and also about what are the strengths and weaknesses of people and situations and how you are managing these. It is sometimes natural to get pulled in when someone takes interest in us. All of us want positive strokes and when we lack them in our life often from our own selves apart from the others in our life one is more susceptible to others’ moves towards us. We often have learnt more to judge ourselves in any experience and this creates guilt. Instead you can move on by problem solving what and how this happened and what and how you can prevent this next time. All we need to do is let go the guilt and convert it into the energy for learning to better manage ourselves in terms of what and how you would do things differently in response to the given type of events. You can also sit in silence and put out an intention of forgiving yourself and letting go the guilt and more importantly feeling strengthened by the insights and learning. One has to trust oneself that at every moment we do the best we can. Then what we do teaches us and we now have more wisdom than before the event. So one cannot blame the past self that lacked some self knowledge, though we can surely take it forward.

You will need to take sessions to release this fear – often it takes only 2 or 3 hours of good therapy. Regression therapy and exploration of the roots of how this fear began helps Sometimes it is even with viewing too much TV coverage of disasters. That makes us associate flying with danger. Self soothing tools can also be learnt that are often calming to the nerves and give us more emotional control.. Some part of the fear is irrational as we can remind ourselves that danger and safety co-exist at all times in our lives, more or less. Our awareness and alertness that make us take appropriate pre-cautions keeps us safe from all dangerous possibilities like accidents and robberies. There is also something like metaphysical causation – that when we are emotionally balanced and centered we are protected even with our auric shield. Fear is a normal and needed response to make us alert. Except we often hold it in a ‘beware!’ mode rather than ‘be aware’ mode.