Your sister in law and you can have a better relationship if you choose to by using good interpersonal communications skills. It is important to keep your limits in helping others as much as advising others as this can be felt as intrusive by the other person. Help only what the other requests and give advice always in a format of suggestions. Plan how you would divide work by turns etc so you do not step on each others’ planning or feel you are working more than the other. Appreciate the others efforts and take appropriate interest in the other’s wellbeing and concerns. Look after yourself in the relationship by having your private time or even saying ‘no’ diplomatically when it does not suit you. Being too pleasing and saying ‘yes’ at too much cost to yourself eventually breaks the relationship. Tolerate some differences and inefficiencies of the other. Prioritize what you make an issue of. Overlook some things and for some things raise the point and work in a non blaming problem solving way of how can we both do this so it works for you and works for me. Request changes not demand them and explain how something affects you. Criticize only the others actions but not their whole personality and don’t doubt their intention. In this way you can have a more co-operative atmosphere.

This is a difficult time for you and it can be quite disturbing to deal with the diagnosis as much as with the illness and pain. You can find yourself feeling extreme feelings of anger, sadness and fear. Recognize these as normal emotions and often practice writing down what you feel. Imagery healing can help. Sitting or lying down, you can close eyes, quieten the body and mind and picturize healing happening. You can set the intention to assist your body in healing and sending healing light to that area of your body. You can send lots of love to that part of your body that is suffering the illness for you. Sometimes an illness changes how we see events, people and our life purpose and you can notice these gains. Believe that everything happens that is meant to evolve us and also see if you gain insights into “What am I meant to learn here?” These insights often have a calming influence that in turn helps healing. At times like this you can send out healing to all who suffer like you as you now know how this suffering is and know that my struggle is same as theirs and as I send healing to myself I send it to those in the same boat too. We are both soul and body and at such time we can also connect with our soul that is still whole and feel our spiritual connection to our higher self and the Universe. In this way you can assist your healing and prevent build up of negativity that can happen at such times.

Yes miracles do happen. However what is the miracle that we will experience could be the one we plan or sometimes quite different. After the death of her mother a person shared how she experienced the miracle of a flower in her garden blooming quite suddenly and she was sure it was her mother letting her know all is well. About the lost love sometimes it worth praying to get it back and use our communication skills to clear misunderstandings. However at other times our challenge may be to help ourselves with prayers to let go the relationship. Its time is over and its magic is gone and we are only clinging t something that can be destructive. Anything that happens to us is not a punishment and making God happy is not the question. The point is to trust that all is well, life still has beauty and purpose and in fact God still loves us. The way forward may be to understand our pain and soothe ourselves. Be your own best friend by noticing what you would tell a friend to do or think who is in your position. Begin to create new purpose in your life in other activities or work.

Past life regression authenticity is based on numerous case studies that have been often followed through to trace identities and found to be verified. Xenoglossy or the spontaneous speaking of a language that is unknown to the speaker in trance or sleep is thought to be explained as related to a past life. Authors such as Ian Stevenson have done many studies on the subject to prove the existence of past lives. The recorded transcripts of Edgar Cayce that he would say in a state of spontaneous trance speak about the existence of past lives. It is now understood that imagination is not simply something we create or a fantasy, very often imagination is a bridge to discover inner truths or a matter that exists. Often people diagnose their own illness by this path, that later is revealed to be true when doctors open up the body for surgery.

Yes when a family member seems to not want to heal it can be very difficult. It is necessary that your mother’s feelings are respected about not wanting to go to a psychiatrist. Instead it is better to approach the person in a more open way e.g. asking him “What way can I help?” Its important to stop quick advice or admonitions or even urging her to go to a doctor. Instead of “Your pain will improve with going to the psychiatrist…” you may recognize her resilience and the lack of solutions she experiences with “ I cannot know your suffering. I only know you are a brave person who has gone through it and is continuing to go through with it well.” Sometimes a person does not want solutions they want you to recognize both that they are suffering and that they are trying in their own way. They don’t like to be judged that “You are not wanting to heal by not going to the doctor.” People may choose different ways to heal – a doctor, or sometimes with chronic illness that has no particular solution a person may choose prayer or alternative healing methods. Give all your advice as a choice. Also you may benefit to go to a psychotherapist yourself without involving her. When you feel supported and the therapist gives you some tools for dealing with her you find yourself calmer with her and that can help Tackle her deep depression by offering TLC (tender loving care) which is touch, appreciation and companionship. You can have distraction from the illness and pain as a way when possible as and when she responds to this - doing pleasant things together like music, TV viewing, reminiscing the past and talking about neutral topics – sports, music and sharing about happenings with other friends and family. Some therapies can help like EFT or brief visualizations or hypnotherapy and sometimes be better than medicating for depression.