Knowing the reason for the break up is not enough. It is necessary for you, Kabir to have positive communications methods to discuss this with her, how you could change or do something to stop that reason from happening again and convey understanding. Aura treatment and counseling do not help to get the girlfriend back directly. They strengthen your stress tolerance and help you to not emotionally blackmail from the feelings of loss you feel. Kabir, it helps to leave the other person free, to convey understanding to other and this in turn may enable your girlfriend to feel respected by you and have second thoughts. Part of loving someone is to be able to accept their ‘no’ with out thinking of it as an insult or as rejection, with out getting too desperate or too angry and thereby becoming emotionally blackmailing to the other. The ‘no’ of the other can mean that some major differences are being experienced by the other person. Also the additional benefit is that even if she does not return, the therapy will make you stronger to handle the loss and sadness in a better way.

It seems that you are adjusting too much and maybe too silently. When we adjust so much then we are showing a happy mask but feeling a little bit disadvantaged or helpless. Added to this if the people who we work for (such as your mother in law seems to be) are of the attitude that they take our services and ‘goodness’ for granted, that you are doing all this is not any great thing and is part of your duty, then they feel nor show any appreciation.

Now we need to realize we are part of this pattern in making the other person take us for granted. We need to be ready to stop being a ‘pleaser’ and say ‘no’ sometimes or at least show others that we do have our list of things to be done that we are adjusting to do their work. Show your adjustments to your mother in law and say ‘no’ tactfully at least some of the time. Often when you become a ‘pleaser’ in your attitude you have disconnected from having your own preferences and agenda. Begin with connecting with these, having a preference and then becoming aware where you are sacrificing it to do something the family wants.

Choose your sources of appreciation. Accept that your mother in law seems to be of old school of thought and would not show you appreciation or recognition. Accept that she has gender biases that will make her show appreciation for the men so de sensitize yourself to her partial gestures. Give treats to yourself from other places – a massage or a trip to a coffee shop occasionally to pamper yourself. Maybe you can open up to your husband and get your appreciations from him. Do things from a sense of your own values and not to please her. Have other sources of appreciation by nurturing friends outside the home or some social work or professional work that you do that can get you feelings of being appreciated. When we are trying so much to get approval we keep hoping for it and do more and more. Instead accept there will be no appreciation and do the minimum so you have free time to do something else where you can feel appreciated or you can enjoy doing. When we enjoy doing something too we do not need other’s appreciations as we ourselves feel honoured to be doing what we enjoy.

Yes a normal graduate can study this art with enough determination. Attending the course is one part but practice and ongoing study are important as it is a vast and skill based subject. You will find Life Positive carries postings about upcoming courses in hypnosis and past life methods.

Training in relationship communication skills and understanding your patterns in relating can help you realize what makes you unable to sustain long term relationships. Past life therapy is surely useful that in my practice I have seen using it along with other methods gives people relief. Confidence can be built by listing both one’s strengths and weaknesses along with examples for both lists. For your weaknesses plan which ones you would need to accept that are unchangeable like one’s height or skin colour and identify one’s where new learning can transform the weakness into a strength area. For memory use both memory aids – both psychological ideas (mnemonics) and diaries and to do lists. Memory improves when you are less stressed and when you focus on taking in the material in a strong way with picturizing it, learning only key words and ideas, creating linkages with other known experiences or knowledge, using diagrams and mind mapping techniques.

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