Love - The love of my life
by Pradeep Darooka
When I embarked on my spiritual quest at the tender age of seven, staring at the sky and the moon and the stars, the question was, ‘Who Am I?’
After 40 long years, I found the answer at the feet of my gurus Osho and Ramesh Balsekar. ‘I Am That’. My love affair with myself started ever since, and it has been ‘satchitananda,’ all the way.
I had gone through almost half my life living through myriad relationships, parents, siblings, spouse, friends, extended family, some thicker than blood, and some thinner than water. Almost all of them were conditional or expectational, in one way or the other. There was always ‘the other’ involved. There was always give and take, joy and sadness, disappointments, and fulfillments. Only during the last days of my mother, did I truly experience unconditional love with someone. She and I had become one. There was no ‘other.’ It brought to life the very teaching and awareness that had awakened in me, ‘I Am That.’ It was not coincidental that my experience with my mother came about almost immediately after the awakening. It was almost as if God was putting his own seal on the teaching.
We spend our entire life looking for love everywhere, some obvious, and some not so obvious. There are as many shades and definitions of love as there are individuals. The mother-child love relationship is the most primitive and obvious, and spans the entire lifetime of either one of them. The next rung down is the relationship with our father, siblings, children, and other blood relatives, which come in a whole range of colours.
|I hugged myself as I had never hugged any one, I smiled from ear to ear, and life became a blessing.|
Marriage is by no means the end game, and the hunt for ‘true love’ continues right to our deathbed. We all want this elusive true love, and each new relationship promises to be that eternal love, until it lies shattered on the altar of commitment and monogamy. I have never heard anyone say, ‘I love my God,’ or ‘I love my guru.’ One always fears God and always respects the guru. What does love have to do with religion or spirituality? We have put them on a pedestal and we can only look up to them. Love is looking in the eyes. You do not look your God or your guru in their eyes. Love is primeval, sublime, intimate, all-encompassing, and intoxicating. We may be devoted to them, but we do not associate these feelings of love with them. Mirabai’s feelings for Krishna were purely devotional, unlike that of Radha, which was unrequited love. Krishna loved himself, and thereby he loved Rukmini, Radha, Mira, and all the gopis and cowherds. He loved the Pandavas as much as he loved the Kauravas. His love knew no bounds.
Love your self
However, we never look at that one person whom we know the best, and who is the easiest to fall in love with, our own self, because there is no ‘other.’ We loathe our self, fling scorn, wallow in self-pity, and are unduly harsh, critical, and negative about our own life. Instead of counting our blessings, and being thankful for our life, we complain, beg, plead, and pray, for ever more. Sometimes we almost wish we had not been born. We feel the entire world and everyone is stacked against us, nobody loves us. However, do we love our own self?
When I fell in love with myself, I rose up like a phoenix from the ashes. It was a new beginning, a new life, full of joy and happiness, brightness, and clarity. The cobwebs of confusion from years of conditioning had cleared away. The sun was shining bright, and even in the darkness of the new moon night, there was always the knowledge that the sun will rise next morning. I hugged myself as I had never hugged any one, I smiled from ear to ear, and life became a blessing. When I realised that I am connected to every being in this world, and that we were all connected to that one consciousness, my love for myself radiated in all directions. I would still get angry in the moment, but the anger would go away soon enough. I was no longer the doer, nor was the other. Unconditional love poured out in the form of hugs, healing circles, workshops, and tête-à-têtes. The conflicts, the stress, and the tension had all melted away. When you fall in love with yourself, I discovered that even God falls in love with you. I was, after all, his child. Doors started opening up, paths started being cleared, and answers started popping up. It was almost as if I had moved from the drudgery of the day-to-day life to the bliss of now. Each moment seemed eternal. My prayers changed from asking to expressions of gratitude. Solitude became my best companion, when my lover and I were the only ones together. I did not need anyone else. The change was anything but subtle.
You are in love with yourself. You take better care of your body. You start noticing things about it you never did before. The signals you were always getting from your body now become loud and clear. You start treating it with more respect and love. You are in love, after all. Your mental faculties become sharper, your observation more keen. Your spirit has rekindled the long dormant intuitive ability. You can now ‘read’ yourself better. You can ‘read’ others better. Your love for yourself lights the path to reach out to others. You find your own inner child, the innocent self that came out crying from his mother’s womb with not a worry.
Once you fall in love with yourself, there is no getting out of it. Why would you? You have finally found your true love, one that is pure, pristine, and eternal.
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Subject: The love of my life - 30 March 2013
Pradeep, you have written my thoughts and shared what I have also experienced! It is a wonderful piece of writing and I agree with you completely. The best thing in the world is to be in love with yourself! Thank you so much!
by: Anuradha Iyer
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