Personal Growth - Beyond definitions
by Megha Bajaj
Megha is, above all, a seeker. These days she
is attempting to find herself in the role of a teacher
through the online writing course designed by her.
Contact: firstname.lastname@example.org Recently I had gone for an evening trek with a big, happy group of people. An adventure lover who feels at home in the mountains, I nonetheless found the scaling heights and abrupt falls extremely unnerving. At one particularly ‘skiddy’ part I just lost it and held onto a friend’s hand and requested him to take me through. He did. However, I could hear a disgusted snort from behind.
When we finally reached, the person who had expressed his discontentment came forth and said, “You write such inspiring articles for magazines; how come you can’t deal with a trek?” The trek had truly been a disaster – both my back and confidence had taken a severe beating.
That night, snug and warm in my bed, I was still feeling quite low. I felt I had failed to be an inspiration to someone who had looked up to me. Arun, my husband, asked me what was wrong. I didn’t want to tell him because Arun has these single-line solutions to all my problems that leave me feeling extremely dissatisfied. However, he kept pressing till I shared. As always, Arun was ready. He said, “Why are you allowing his definition of you – good or bad – to affect you? It’s his definition. He needs to deal with it, not you.” With that, he patted my head and went off to sleep. Wow, for once Arun’s solution was like a much-needed tonic rather than an unasked-for irritant.
One of the worst things all of us do in life is try to fit others’ definition of us… good or bad! “The shy girl…” “The effortless extrovert…” “The topper…” “The rebel…” “Fatty…” oh...oh…we have all been
|One of the worst things all of us do in life is try to fit others’ definition of us… good or bad! “The shy girl…” “The effortless extrovert…” “The topper…” “The rebel…” “Fatty…” oh...oh…we have all been labelled, haven’t we?|
My guru says, “In the entirety of this Universe there has never been anyone like you – and there will never be anyone like you.” If I am so deliciously unique – why am I constantly trying to fit into others’ definition of me? If someone thinks I am an angel – that’s their tag of me – I don’t need to be uncharacteristically good. If someone thinks I am not good enough – again that’s their issue – I have to grow at the pace that I have to grow. Evolution cannot be forced…
I don’t want to live my life out of others’ definitions anymore. In fact, I don’t want to define myself at all. I am a little this, a little that...just like you. And I believe when we die God won’t ask us why we didn’t do this, or that – but there is one question that He will surely ask: Why didn’t you live as YOU?
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Subject: Nice one - 4 November 2011
Your articles have always been so inspiring. One can really relate to them and its true that we live half of our lives thinking about others perception for us. We should the life the way its most satisfying to us and not to others.
by: Neha Jain
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