Personal Growth - Retell your story, recreate your life
by K Gitanjali
If you keep telling the same sad
small story, you will keep living the
same sad small life,” says Jean I
I realised this as I sat listening to my friend Shaila’s (name changed) story for the hundredth time. We all have our own life story where things are happening to us. We get to be the centre of attraction only in our own life story. In all other stories, we only make a guest appearance. No wonder we cling to our stories. We love the drama, the attention. “Shaila’s story sounds sad and upsetting but her face looks so animated. My, it looks like she really is enjoying her story,” I thought. But how long does such a thrill last? Just the moment you tell the story. Once it is said and the attention is diverted from us and we cease to be the centre of attraction, all we are left with is a limited cloud of powerlessness.
“Those who do not have power over the story that dominates their lives, the power to retell it, rethink it, deconstruct it, joke about it, and change it as times change, truly are powerless, because they cannot think new thoughts,” says Salman Rushdie.
Retell your story
Would it not be wonderful if we could train ourselves as Rushdie says to retell our stories? When we say the same old story over and over again, not only does our life become monotonous and boring, but we also become powerless victims caught in a maze of maya. Once we decide that we are the creators of our reality, we understand that maya need not be a maze but is actually the magic pen with which we write out the script of our own life dramas. I had cause to experiment with this idea soon enough. News of a friend’s daughter’s surgery had our phone lines buzzing.
“Did you hear the news about Ranjini (name changed)? Isn’t it unfortunate?” a friend breathed down the phone, her voice heavily laced with shocked sympathy. “After all that she has gone through, God gives her this.”
“Why do bad things happen to good people?” I replied, after listening to the story of the friend in question whose cup of woes seemed to be brimming over. She was divorced, in a financial mess, and just recovering from an accident that had her bedridden for more than a year. To top it all now her little daughter was in hospital.
I visited Ranjini and her daughter in hospital the next day and spent the first five minutes expressing my sympathy at the cards life was dealing her. She listened calmly. It almost looked as though I was the one in trouble and she was the one offering solace! Then she said something that made me do a double take. “I have been thanking God. I was with my sister who is a doctor, in Chennai, when my daughter complained of stomach ache and vomiting. If I had been in Salem, I would have had a tough time all alone getting the problem diagnosed. I thus had all the best doctors at my daughter’s service. Now she is recovering.” What a different story she had to tell! And because she decided which story to tell, she was able to sail through the crisis.
Every life story can be interpreted in different ways. And how we interpret a story depends on the state of our mind. It depends on where our mind rests! Has it identified with our small egoic centre? Then you bet it will churn out more drama. But if it surrenders and dissolves in the ocean of silence, the script that flows out can be magical. Shaila’s disturbed mind scripts out drama in the slightest situation. Ranjini, established in silence, draws an oasis of peace from the most difficult situation.
Esther Hicks in her book, The Amazing Power of Deliberate Intent, channels Abraham, a group of high dimensional beings. Their premise is that by reaching for a thought just higher than the one that is making you feel low, you will experience relief. Relief raises your vibration.
|By reaching for a thought just higher than the one that is making you feel low, you will experience relief|
The decision is mine
So nowadays, I decide which story I will tell and since I like happy endings, I always like to perceive my circumstances from the highest point of view. The best way is to link to the Higher Self and consciously create our stories from its perspective. The more expanded my view of the situation, the more rewarding my story becomes. The more expanded my story, the freer I am.
In Yann Martel’s novel Life of Pi, Pi is interviewed by Japanese officials. He tells them a fantastic story about his ordeal at sea with Richard Parker the tiger. When the officials do not believe this tale he makes up another story with human characters. The whole point of the matter is, which story do we choose to tell?
It is fun experimenting with stories. A bad time at the workplace need not have the third dimensional story of “why do such things always happen to me?” Instead, I can try out a whole new range of colours I have never used before – the colours of my Higher Self – bold colours wherein I use the circumstance as a blessing helping me explore a job more in keeping with my principles. A bout of illness need not translate into a problematic story of a tiny me suffering, but can instead be a magical tale of time spent nurturing and building a relationship with myself. The third dimensional story of how handicapped I feel because my dog takes up a lot of my time, can expand to a beautiful one of how she protects and embellishes my life with her loving licks and waggy tail.
Let us face it. Our life on earth is interwoven with our life stories. The mistake we make is in thinking that our stories are already written out for us.
When we finally realise that we are the author of all our life stories and only we can decide which shape the story should take, we experience the true power of our being. When fun! I can now add a dash of magic to all my life stories. I am in a fairy tale world where all things are possible and all stories have happy endings! All I need to do is relax into my centre of stillness and from there create with the high frequencies of love and oneness. My story is no longer of a little centre with its limited adventures. It is a saga of the soul that is simultaneously exploring itself as an individual and all that is! What a tale it has to tell!
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