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Life is a creation. But are we merely playing the role already created
for us, or can we create our own pages in any chapter of life?
Can we determine our
destiny or does destiny determine us?
Opinions differ. Emerson, an American thinker, says: "The great oversoul
has need of an organ where I am, else I would not be here." Flip back
to the primal Vedas, and bask in the bliss of cosmic oneness. "In
that which is the subtle essence all that exists has its self. That is
the truth, that is the self, and thou art that," says the Chandogya
Upanishad. We are God. Free will and destiny telescope into the vastness
that is us. Close
to our time, much is said about the glories of free will. The masters
of personal growth and self-help rhapsodize about the endless potential
of man. Jose Silva, founder of the Silva method of mind control says:
"Mind expansion, self-knowledge and helping others through Mind Control
are only limited by your own limitations. Anything is possible."
With the introduction of human psychology, the matter went inwards. For
Sigmund Freud, father of modern psychoanalysis, the determinants of life
were our dark primal needs, and the way we learnt to control them. Humanist
thinkers, C.G. Jung and Abraham Maslow, were more positive. Jung postulated
the concept of Pneuma, a spiritual component of the psyche. Maslow opined
that man's destiny depended on how far he managed to rise from primal
needs to the meta need of transcendence.
On
the other hand, Transactional Analysis (TA) proponent Eric Berne, author
of What Do You Say After You Say Hello? says that genes, parental
programming and external conditioning decide the courses of our lives.
The
question, however, remainshow much of our lives can we actually
control?
If you think it is chance that governs our lives and that what happens
to us is not only beyond our control, then that is your reality. Every
seer, from Jesus Christ to the Buddha asserted that we make our own reality.
Which means that we have the free will to believe in destiny!
Even this is simplistic. There are certain patterns and leitmotifs that
recur in the broad spectrum of human life. These give insight into the
possible scenario of life's plan. Step back and watch the curtain rise.
ACT
I, SCENE I A Hindu child is bornLaxmi. Her father is a manager
in an engineering firm. Her mother is a teacher. She has an elder brotherHari.
Laxmi is an adorable baby with large liquid eyes, curls of black hair and a golden
complexion.
Who determined Laxmi's birth into these circumstances?
Who decided her physical characteristics? From the viewpoint of this lifetime,
no philosopher has been able to answer the first question adequately. But if looked
at from the infinite span of reincarnation, determinism takes a back seat and
karma steps forward.
ACT I, SCENE II As Laxmi grows into
an adult, her free will expands. She decides when to eat and sleep, how to spend
her time, and what beliefs to uphold. In all this, parental programming will influence
her decisions. Laxmi freewheels through life, unaware of the genesis of her choices.
Ask her what determines her life and she is at a loss. Since she has not seen
the uncompromising face of life, she is inclined to favor free will.
Miss Universe 2000 Lara Dutta declares her belief in free will that has got
her the beauty pageant title. On the other hand, an accountant in a small time
company confesses his inability to straddle the forces of life and lead them in
the direction of his desires.
At this stage, there are two distinctive
voiceswinners and losers. In effect, the relationship between free will
and destiny, at this point, seems to depend solely on a person's frame of mindif
you triumph over the adverse circumstances of your life, you believe in free will;
if not, destiny. Here destiny is seen as static, the sum total of one's genes,
parental conditioning and external circumstances.
REALIZE
YOUR INFINITE POTENTIAL
1.
Sit in a quiet room. 2. Calm your
mind and body. 3. Release whatever message you may have for your subconscious.
There are certain rules that you must follow: a) Phrase the commands in present
tense. If you wish to develop a better memory, assert: "My memory is perfect."
b) Phrase your commands positively. "My memory is perfect" is better than saying,
"I don't have a bad memory." The reason is simple. The mind only accepts positive
commands. c) Be specific and cover every aspect of life. 4. Affirm your messages with confidence and belief.
Your subconscious is programmed
to receive and act on your commands. 5. Visualize the result. See yourself
in various situations. Think of the positive changes in your life. Imagination
is the propeller of all, and when you combine it with feeling, results come faster.
ACT II
Laxmi is now 23 and employed in a reputed computer firm. Although she enjoys her
job, an indefinable sense of inadequacy grips her. There would be promotions,
marriage and family. But is that enough?
To find the answer, she registers herself for a personal growth workshop. She
is made to see that whatever we experience is only our perception of life. Once
again life becomes exciting. Destiny? No way! She is in charge.
The quality of life is in the mind. The day you realize that, you become
the navigator of your own life. There is just you, and how you choose to make
your life. At this stage, free will is absolute. Destiny appears to be feeble
in comparison with powers of the mind.
ACT III Laxmi's
life is pelting forward. At work, her remarkable energy, creativity and adaptability
are bringing her into the spotlight. Her relationships are thriving. And then
it happens. A depression settles upon her. Try as she might, it does not go. However,
she is astonished to find that despite doing little at work, her job continues
to be secure. Increasingly, she gets the feeling of being looked after. Certainly,
she is in control of her actions and reactions, but there is a wider relationship
between her and the larger forces of life.
In his book, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success, Deepak Chopra,
the celebrity New Age guru, writes: "Human beings are made of body, mind and spirit.
Of these, spirit is primary, for it connects us to the source of everything. The
more connected we are, the more we will enjoy the abundance of the universe, which
has been organized to fulfill our wishes…"
BECOME
AWARE OF THE ROLE OF DESTINY IN YOUR LIFE
1.
Become aware of coincidences. Nothing is accidental.
2. Every incident of your life is meant to happen. Ask yourself what
you are supposed to learn from them. 3. Know yourself. The more you
are aware of yourself, and the more you accept yourself, the more you become yourself.
This will direct the forces of destiny into your life. 4. Live according
to the spiritual laws of life. This will align you to the forces of life. 5. Develop your power of intuition. Learn to make decisions on the basis
of your inner response rather than on facts or logic. 6. Become aware
of the intertwining forces of fate operating in your life. Ask yourself what you
are meant to do. Often, it is a grand synthesis of all your varied experiences.
7. Live in gratitude. It is a powerful force. 8. Try to
surrender yourself to the Higher Power. 9. Question yourself: "Why?"
In other
words, destiny is an elastic fluid, an ever-changing force that works in tandem
with us. It manifests only when we are conscious of it. Thereafter, it works with
an ever-increasing speed and strength. Neither is it rigid, for it gives us room
to exercise our free will.
Meera Kotak, an Indian reiki practitioner, says: "There are many paths that are
open to us at any point. Which one we decide to take unfolds further choice. The
sum total of the path and the choice decides our destiny."
At this stage
there is an active cooperation between the larger forces of life and oneself.
One is in harmony with life and lives by its laws. The result: an increasing sense
of joy and satisfaction, of peace and integration both within and without.
ACT IV
We catch up with Laxmi ten years later. The intervening years have
been successful. Now she develops a sense of settling accounts with the material
part of life. Increasingly, it is the spiritual part that beckons her. Her focus
on the welfare of others is almost absolute. Material ambitions have virtually
left her. She feels that nothing but the moment is hers. This inclines her towards
living in the present. What is the point of worrying over things that are beyond
her control? Obviously, she is not the controller of her life. She realizes: "There
is no one but God, there never was. Free will was an illusion. It was always his
will."
In his book Krishna:The Man and His Philosophy, controversial
spiritual guru Osho says: "The very understanding of life and its ways will tell
you nothing is in your hands. Neither do you decide to be born nor do you decide
to die. Neither you breathe of your own volition, nor do you have a hand in the
circulation of your blood through the body."
Is there a contradiction
between the heady sense of being in control over yourself and the knowledge that
nothing is in your hands? At the highest level of Advaita (monism) where
you die to your ego to crest into the limitless realm of Self, you no longer identify
with the concept of free will, since there is no individual 'you' to enforce it.
Does going beyond the concept of free will make you a victim of circumstances?
Seers would dispute this vigorously. Beyond free will lies God's will. You become
an instrument for the Highest Power.
Osho says: "You are utterly mistaken
if you think you are the doer; you are merely an instrument in the hands of the
divine. Let it do what it wants to be done through you, and let go of yourself."
We return to where
we began: destiny rules. But how different is the perspective here! As instruments
of the Higher Will we live not for ourselves but for others. Free of fear, doubt
or desire, we are established in equilibrium, resisting nothing and accepting
everything. Curtains down. The play is over. We are home and free.