When we pursue happiness, it eludes you. However, when you recognise that happiness is the natural state of the soul, all you need is to eliminate all that comes between your happiness and you.
Each
year thousands of teenagers commit suicide
in India. It is because depression
is now increasingly bedeviling both children and adolescents
Depression is not a disease limited to the adult population. Teenagers
also suffer depression, which is a treatable illness. Depression in adolescence
could best be understood as an illness when the feelings of depression
persist and interfere with a child or adolescent's ability to function.
A significant
percentage of children and adolescents suffer from depression at any given
time. In my practice, I have seen this number growing at a rapid pace
over the last few years. Children who are stressed, have experienced loss,
or those who have attention-related learning, conduct or anxiety disorders,
are at a higher risk for depression. Depression also tends to run in families.
The behavior
of depressed children and teenagers may differ from the behavior of depressed
adults. Child and adolescent psychiatrists advise parents to be aware of
signs of depression in their youngsters.
SIGNS OF DEPRESSION
If one or more of the following signs of depression persist, parents should
seek help for their children:
Frequent sadness, feeling low or weepy
Hopelessness
Decreased interest in previously favorite activities
Persistent boredom, low energy
Increased social isolation, poor communication
Worthlessness, low self-esteem
Feelings of guilt
Extreme sensitivity to rejection or failure
Increased irritability, anger, or hostility
Difficulty with relationships
Frequent complaints of headaches and stomachaches
Frequent absences from or poor performance in school
Poor concentration
Major change in eating and/or sleeping patterns
Talk of or efforts to run away from home
Thoughts or expressions of suicide or self-destructive behavior
A child
who often played with friends may now spend more time alone and without
interests. Things that the teenager enjoyed now bring little joy. Children
and adolescents who are depressed may say they want to die or may talk
about suicide. Depressed children and adolescents are at increased risk
of suicide. Depressed adolescents may abuse alcohol or other drugs as
a way to feel better.
Children and
adolescents who cause trouble at home or at school may actually be depressed.
Because they may not always seem sad, parents and teachers do not realize
their behavior is a sign of depression. When asked directly, these children
sometimes state they are unhappy or sad.
SUICIDAL SYMPTOMS
Suicide among young people nationwide has increased dramatically in recent
years. Each year in India, thousands of teenagers commit suicide. Shockingly,
suicide is one of the leading causes of death for 15 to 24 year olds.
Adolescents
experience strong feelings of stress, confusion, self-doubt, pressure
to succeed and financial uncertainty, besides other fears while growing
up. For some teenagers, parental divorce, starting a new family with
stepparents and siblings, or even moving to a new place can be very
unsettling, intensifying self-doubt. In a lot of these cases, suicide
appears to the teenagers as a 'solution' to the problem they are currently
facing.
Many symptoms
of suicidal feelings are similar to those of depression. Parents should
be aware of the following behavioral and emotional symptoms in adolescents
who may attempt to kill themselves:
Change in eating and sleeping habits
Withdrawal from friends, family and regular activities
Violent actions, rebellious behavior, or running away
Drug and alcohol use
Unusual neglect of personal appearance
Marked personality change
Persistent boredom, difficulty concentrating, or a decline in
the quality of schoolwork
Frequent complaints about physical symptoms, often related to
emotions, such as stomachaches, headaches, fatigue
Loss of interest in pleasurable activities
Not tolerating praise or rewards.
A teenager
who is planning to commit suicide may also:
Complain of being a bad person or feeling 'rotten inside'
Give verbal hints with statements such as: 'I won't be a problem
for you much longer', 'Nothing matters', 'It's no use', and 'I won't see
you again'
Put his affairs in order, for example, give away favorite possessions,
suddenly clean his room, throwing away important belongings.
Become suddenly cheerful after a period of depression
Have signs of psychosis (hallucinations or bizarre thoughts)
If a child or adolescent says: ''I want to kill myself'' or ''I'm going
to commit suicide'', always take the statement seriously and seek evaluation
from a child and adolescent psychiatrist or another physician. People
often feel uncomfortable talking about death. However, directly asking
the child or adolescent whether he or she is depressed or thinking about
suicide can be helpful. Rather than 'putting thoughts in the child's head',
such a question will provide assurance that somebody cares and will give
the young person the chance to talk about problems.
If one
or more of these signs occur, parents need to talk to their child about
their concerns and seek professional help when the concerns persist.
With support from family and professional treatment, children and teenagers
who are suicidal can heal and return to a healthier path of development.
MANAGING
THE PROBLEM
Depression and suicidal feelings are treatable mental disorders. The
child or adolescent needs to have his or her illness recognized and
diagnosed, and appropriate treatment plans developed. When parents are
in doubt whether their child has a serious problem, a psychiatric examination
can be helpful.
Early diagnosis
and medical treatment are essential for depressed children. This is a
real illness that requires professional help. Comprehensive treatment
often includes both individual and family therapy, including the use of
antidepressant medication. For help, parents should consult a qualified
psychiatrist, who can diagnose and treat the depression. It is not a condition
that can be wished away or ignored. It is real and very frightening for
the person suffering it, and can prove fatal if proper and timely management
is not ensured.