Interestingly, it is possible to convert stress-building thoughts into stress-busting
ones. Here are ten sure ways for managing stress
in our life.
1.
Time ManagementTips
Time is money, said Benjamin Franklin. Centuries later,
the dictum still holds. Which is why management guru Peter F. Drucker said: "Time
is the scarcest resource and unless it is managed, nothing else can be managed."
Time is inelastic-once squandered, it is lost forever. Make sure that every waking
and working moment is used productively.
You
could do this by being organized and avoiding clutter. If pressed for time, plan
and prioritize your tasks by preparing a checklist. If you still have your hands
full, delegate.
Indecision and procrastination are two of the biggest time wasters.
Rid your life of both. To quote Sant Kabir: "Kal kare
so aaj kar, aaj kare so ab."
Having
outlined what task(s) you wish to accomplish, set a deadline. A job without a
deadline is akin to a boat without a sail.
If
possible, split your task into sub-tasks, each with individual deadlines, keeping
the final deadline in mind.
Ensure
that staff meetings are kept to the minimum. At every meeting, adhere to a prior
agenda so that time is not lost in "putting things in perspective".
At the
workplace, avoid/reduce personal calls. Besides, keep official conversations to
their polite brief. And when you mean no, say NO. Beating about the bush is only
productive if you're out on shikar.
Years
ago, the Japanese developed a beautiful tool called Kaizen, to boost efficiency
and productivity through simpler, faster and/or cheaper techniques and tools.
You too
could discover your own tools to save on time and costs, instead of waiting for
the Japanese to do so!
2. Creative
Visualization
This is a technique for mobilizing inner resources
for success or whatever else you desire. Begin by having an idea, or image, of
what you want to create and then accept that to fulfill your goals you have to
imagine your present reality transformed into something you want. In short, you
create a vision, believe in that vision and pursue it till accomplishment. This
can be used for material success. Or to handle aches, pains and stress.
Suppose
you have a constant pain in your right elbow caused by daylong work at the computer
terminal. Every morning before getting up from bed and every night before sleeping,
visualize your healthy left elbow. Then overlap the elbows and visualize your
right elbow as a fighting fit body part.
This technique
is also used to destress. Begin by lying down or sitting comfortably.
Now close your eyes and visualize a tranquil place, one you have actually
been to or an imaginary one. Make it vivid: A beautiful Himalayan valley
full of flowers spanning the spectrum of rainbow colors. A cool, gentle
breeze is wafting the fragrance of these exotic flowers all around.
Your ears register the mellifluous music of birdsong and the soothing
trickle of a gurgling mountain stream. Leaves rustle in the wind as
a magpie robin trills its love song to seduce a teasing female and a
pair of lovelorn koels answer each other's calls at rapid intervals.
Now
visualize the stress slowly trickling out of your fingers and toes like grains
of sand from a sand clock. Sixty seconds later, your mind is completely calm,
your body totally relaxed. You feel you're in the Garden of Eden. Indeed, you
are. Mentally.
Gradually
let this image fade away and return to reality. You are back in your room. Sans
the stress. Feeling absolutely refreshed. Relaxed.
Light,
instrumental and soothing music in the background could aid the visualization
process.
Use
creative visualization twice or thrice a day and see it work wonders.
3. Progressive Muscle Relaxation
A technique developed by American physiologist Edmund Jacobson, described
in his book Progressive Relaxation (1929), it is based on the premise
that anxiety-provoking thoughts and situations create muscular tension.
The trick is to deliberately heighten muscular tension and then relax.
Here's a simplified variation of his original technique:
Clasp your
hands behind the back of your head. Push your head back into your hands even as
you tighten your arms to shove the head forward. Hold this position till a count
of eight. Then release the tension and relax. Repeat thrice.
Clench
your fists, flex the biceps and crunch the pectoral muscles while tensing the
shoulders, back and upper body. Hold till a count of eight. Release tension. Relax.
Repeat thrice.
Raise your knees while you lie down, cup your palms
behind each knee cap and as you press the knees upwards and out pull your hands
inwards while tensing the entire lower body. Hold till eight. Release tension.
Relax. Repeat thrice.
Tense your entire body simultaneously, hold
up to a count of eight. Release tension and relax. Repeat thrice.
Remember
to tense each muscle group for a maximum of eight seconds and relax for up to
30 seconds before the next repetition. Throughout, focus on the sensations of
tension and relaxation. Do not do this exercise before or after a heavy meal.
An
excellent stress buster for quick relief.
4.
Laughter
"A laugh a day keeps the doctor away" is a dictum the Marx Brothers
would happily swear by. Besides doctors, laughter also keeps lawsuits
at bay. No kidding! In the 1940s, the Marx Bros made a film titled Night
in Casablanca. Whereupon they received a notice from Warner Bros threatening
to sue the Marx Brothers if the latter didn't change the name of their
film. Warner Bros felt aggrieved as they already had a hit film entitled
Casablanca. The Marx Bros responded by saying that they would be suing
Warner Bros if the latter didn't drop Bros from their name since the Marx
Bros were born before the Warners!
Predictably,
Warner Bros saw sense.
Small
wonder then that many medical practitioners have advocated a happy, positive mindset
as a means to healthy living. When Sir Heneage Ogilvie, a specialist at Guy's
Hospital, London, made a statement in the 1950s that "a happy man never gets
cancer", he was speaking from years of experience, although he knew his words
weren't an inflexible fact and there could be exceptions.
A
man with a cheerful disposition has the ability to instantly light up a room full
of solemn people. If disease can be contagious, laughter is doubly so. Laughter
can also act as a catharsis in various emotional disorders. Which is why laughter
clubs are mushrooming in metropolitan cities with their aficionados visiting parks
in the early morning to indulge in their day's quota of a bellyful of uproarious
laughter.
And
the best thing about laughter as a therapy is it's free! Enjoy!
5. Hobbies
Empirical evidence since the 1950s indicates that aches and ailments tend
to mushroom after retirement and death looms larger than ever. Once-busy
people who couldn't spare any "time to kill" find all the time
on their hands, which is killing-literally and figuratively. As the adage
goes: An idle mind is the devil's workshop. It is also a workshop for
atrophy and disease of the body, mind and spirit, since any faculty that
isn't used rapidly deteriorates.
To pre-empt
quicker aging, retired people should begin a second innings by learning
a new skill or cultivating a hobby. One could try painting, some form
of craft, learn a foreign language or begin a collection-philately,
numismatology (coins), deltiology (picture postcards) or anything else
that enthralls you.
Those
not interested in picking up a new hobby could revive past flames-and we aren't
thinking about the opposite sex! Writing, cooking, gardening, flower making, listening
to music, singing, maintaining a fish tank or doing anything that is relaxing
and enjoyable would qualify as a hobby. One of the most soothing and rewarding
hobbies is maintaining a fish tank. As an element of relaxation, nothing beats
water. It is natural, soft, transparent, and not just its sight, but even the
sound of trickling water soothes frayed nerves. And if there are exotic and colorful
fish in the tank, it adds to the joy of the experience.
"Hobbies
help us ventilate, redefine focus and allow one to indulge in activities that
are health-stimulating in nature," concurs Dr Chugh.
Go
ahead and discover the hobby of your life.
6.
Vacation There might be times at the workplace when you will run around
like a headless chicken as a deadline nears. The sheer pressure of work might
make you feel like exploding or imploding. This is especially true if you are
in the hotel, advertising, airline, public relations, IT, media or foreign banking
industry. In which case, you might need to get away from it all once in six months
or so.
Take
a break from work and go trekking in the hills, have a ball on the beach or go
wherever it suits your budget and inclination. And ensure you don't take anything
that's even remotely connected with your work. No, not even your mobile! This
is your break from the grind of daily routine, buddy. This will ensure you enjoy
your vacation in toto.
Besides
destressing, your body and mind will be recharged and you'll be raring to pick
up the gauntlet once you're back in town.
7.
Exercise Stress has the uncanny knack of creeping up on most people and
overstaying as a chronic companion, whether one likes it or not. Chronic stress
can lead to constant aches and tensions in the muscles and joints of the body.
Such stress is always cumulative and inevitably finds an outlet through the weakest
link in the body or mind. If an organ gives way, you could be saddled with heart,
kidney, lung, liver or some other problem. Even cancer. If your mind caves in,
you could end up with emotional problems or even suffer a nervous breakdown.
But relax! Simply
avoid all this by junking stress on a regular basis. One healthy way is through
regular exercise. Like aerobics, calisthenics martial arts, weight training, walking,
jogging, cycling, swimming or whatever suits your body and budget. Even sports
like football, badminton, tennis, table tennis and squash can be healthy exercise.
Before performing any vigorous exercise, do check with your family physician.
For those in the prime of youth, most forms of exercise are healthy. If you are
in the middle years or past it, avoid vigorous activities like jogging, which
could cause injuries or cardiovascular problems. A 30-minute walk in the mornings
or evenings would be ideal.
However,
the most all-round exercise is swimming, which tones up almost every muscle in
the body, including the eyes. Do not swim after a meal, however.
8. Autosuggestion
and NLP
People sometimes make life difficult by having
the wrong attitudes. Perfectionism is top of this heap. Unless you are a surgeon,
service or aeronautical engineer, there's no need to make every job a masterpiece.
Besides consuming undue time, it's a stress magnifier. Get rid of negative emotions
by inculcating positive attitudes.
There's
nothing greater than the power of positive suggestion, which came to prominence
innocuously through Emile Coue. A French psychotherapist born in 1857, Coue studied
the methods of hypnotist A.A. Liebeault (who cured people of various ailments)
and came to the conclusion that the curative power lay not in the hypnotist but
the patient. He reasoned that the presence of the hypnotist would be redundant
if a way was found to trigger off the patient's power to heal himself.
Coue
evolved the system of auto-suggestion, which was designed to harness the unconscious
power of a patient's mind. He devised several phrases to put patients in the right
frame of mind. The most famous was: "Every day in every way I am getting
better and better." It was not the actual words that mattered but the emotional
feeling they engendered. Coue's phrase worked like magic. People were cured of
asthma, skin diseases, paralysis and even appendicitis.
Self-hypnosis
and neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) are some other tools to foster a positive
mindset. In the words of Santhosh Babu, a licensed hypnotherapist and NLP practitioner:
"A person may feel nervous about a presentation if his last one didn't go
well. This could create great stress. In NLP, I find out how he has coded this
information in his nervous system that making a presentation is stressful. I then
decode this so that the incident no longer affects him. For instance, if you recall
yourself sitting in a roller-coaster, you'll see yourself actually sitting in
one. This is a dissociated image. Now if you visualize trees whizzing past and
the wind whistling through your hair, it's an associated image I ask the
person to visualize himself making a presentation in an associated manner, but
with his favorite song always playing in the background. Thereafter, whenever
he recalls the presentation he will no longer find it stressful since his favorite
song that's playing in the background is soothing."
Try
out all the above for instant destressing.
9.
Yoga Nidra Yoga nidra is a state of psychic sleep brought about by systematically
inducing complete physical, mental and emotional relaxation. While in
yoga nidra, one is in the hypnagogic state-a prolonged suspension
between wakefulness and sleep. You emerge from this feeling more rested
than after a good night's sleep.
Yoga
nidra is practiced while lying in a supine position and following
an instructor's guidelines, which may also be taped. You start by promising
yourself that you won't fall asleep. Become aware of your breathing.
As you breathe in, feel calmness spreading through your body. As you
breathe out, feel your worries flowing out. You will feel your body
relaxing.
In each
session, you need to repeat a positive sankalpa (resolve), phrased
in the present tense, with feeling and awareness. Do this and then rotate
awareness from one part of the body to the next, repeating the name
of each in your mind. After you are done with each part, focus on the
body as a whole. All this while, remember not to fall asleep.
The
next step is to view your body as if from outside. Imagine a deep well in which
you are lowering a bucket. First, let it move into the darkness until you cannot
see it anymore. Then pull it out again towards light. Consciously become aware
of your thought process.
Begin alternating between opposite sensations,
such as heat and cold, lightness and heaviness, and so on. Try to remember the
sensation of pain and relive it. Then visualize some images, like a flickering
candle, a palm tree, or a yogi in meditation, and become aware of your own awareness.
Look within and try to be aware of the one who is observing.
Go into the
chidakasa (space behind the forehead) where there is a flaming
light. At the center of that light is a golden egg. Once you reach there,
repeat your sankalpa thrice. Thereafter, relax and again become
aware of your breathing and then of your surroundings. Start moving and
when you are wide awake, open your eyes.
10.
Ambience The right colors and a conducive atmosphere can make all the
difference in creating a relaxed atmosphere at your home or the workplace. The
medical use of colors dates back to medieval times. When a son of King Edward
I was stricken with smallpox, John of Gaddesden, the royal physician, surrounded
his bed with red cloth. This considerably reduced the disfiguring effects of pitting.
Back then, treatment with red cloth was done for mystical purposes, the actual
benefits of the color being unknown. It was 600 years later that Niels Finsen,
the Danish pioneer of phototherapy, discovered the treatment succeeded because
it prevented ultraviolet light from reaching the patient's sensitive skin.
Finsen
later showed that lupus (a tubercular skin condition) improved when subjected
to ultraviolet rays.
Nearer
home, despite being in the pressure-cooker field of advertising, Bharat Dabholkar
of Zen Communications has reduced stress levels and created a homely atmosphere
by having his office designed colorfully and aesthetically with space for pets
of all hues, including a massive fish tank.
Avoid using
black or dark colors as they create a negative, morose ambiance. Use subtle
or brighter shades depending on the mood you wish to create in a particular
room. For instance the color green is especially soothing to the eye.
Bonsais, indoor plants, fountains, waterfalls and instrumental music can
all impart a relaxed, natural atmosphere. And you don't need Zen to bring
your stress levels to zero-wind chimes at their tinkling best are the
surefire winner.