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Most of us go through life engaged in jobs that give us no satisfaction. Many of us spend a lifetime imprisoned in work that we hate. Finding your calling early in life is crucial. But whose job is it to find it?
Most of us go through life engaged in jobs that give us no satisfaction. Many of us spend a lifetime imprisoned in work that we hate. Finding your calling early in life is crucial. But whose job is it to find it?
Indian superstar Amitabh Bachchan, on being asked the secret of his success once remarked: "I consider myself lucky that I could decide early in life that I wanted to be an actor. I have come across many people who do not know what to do with themselves."
It is important to identify your real interests correctly early in life. Indian tennis ace Vijay Amritraj says in his autobiography: "I have been incredibly lucky because I have earned money doing what I like best. My one nightmare is doing something I hate just to earn enough to keep my family secure. I hope it never comes to that." Thomas Edison, in spite of working 18 hours a day, once said: "I never did a day's work in my life. It was all fun."
Amritraj and Edison are well on their way to self-actualization. Psychologist
Abraham Maslow describes self-actualization as a person's need to be
and do that which the person was born to do, his calling. "A musician
must make music,
an artist
must paint, and a poet
must write," he said. Self-actualization is at the apex of Maslow's
hierarchy of needs. If a person's self-actualization needs are not met,
he feels restless, edgy, lacking something.
But isn't
it the job of education to discover talent, determine potential and
help in identifying an occupation closer to a calling?
EDUCATION AND OCCUPATION
The word 'education' is derived from two Latin terms ek and ducere.
Ek means 'out' and ducere means 'to draw'. Therefore,
education means to draw out from with n. This is contrary to the established
practice of 'stuffing in' knowledge. Does imbibing more knowledge (read
information) make us more intelligent? The present-day obsession with
qualifications and knowledge leads many people to live miserable lives.
As somebody pointed out sarcastically: "The world is full of educated
derelicts."
And what
does occupation mean? Literally, it implies something that occupies
you. Quite obviously, everybody cannot be occupied by everything. Psychiatrists
employ 'occupational therapy' to treat people with certain physical
or mental illnesses by giving them creative
or productive work. But finding that creative or productive work to
suit the person's temperament cannot be easy. Even yoga and meditation would not really
help if followed by eight to ten hours of misery at the workplace.
When it comes
to occupation, "one man's meat is another man's poison". The
importance of pinpointing the work cut out for each person can only be
gauged when you see the agony of extreme job misfits or "square pegs
in round holes". Only an Albert Einstein can have the wisdom to reject
an offer to become President of Israel because he argued that he did not
have enough experience of working with human beings. Only an Alyque Padamsee
can have the wherewithal to pursue two careers throughout his life to
enable one to fund the other. Although theater was his real passion, it
paid a pittance and he had to take up advertising as a full-time profession.
DETERMINING POTENTIAL
At what stage should the aptitude of a person be determined and how?
Should it be on the basis of activity or knowledge, or should it be
left to the individual to make a choice? Should it be determined proactively
after looking at market realities by a vocational psychologist? Or is
it the responsibility of educational institutions to determine who has
talent for what so that time and effort is not wasted?
In his
book Success at the Speed of Thought, Bill Gates points out that
with the coming of computers and the internet, for the first time in
the history of mankind it was possible to give customized education,
that is, alter the teaching style to the mode that suits the child most.
A Reader's
Digest article titled 'Should you see a career doctor?' implied
that leaving a career choice to the individual would be almost as absurd
as leaving the choice of treatment to the patient. The article went
on to say that the counselor sometimes gives advice that is drastically
different from what the parents say because the counselor is able to
make a more objective appraisal.
Former
Pakistani cricket star Imran Khan used to say that talented cricketers
emerged not because of, but in spite of, the cricket system in his country.
Our educational institutions are replete with examples where students
make right career choices by default rather than by design. Not trying
to explore an individual's potential before he enters professional life
seems fatalistic. Albert Einstein said: "Imagination is more important
than knowledge." So is it the teacher's job to impart knowledge
or to detect imagination and potential and direct the student accordingly?
In the
age of the Internet, the role of a teacher is reduced to that of a librarian,
unless he happens to be good at content development. Rather than being
a sage on the stage, he has become a guide on the side. Perhaps then
he should be involved in synchronizing the needs of the outside world
with the potential of the students and shaping them accordingly. Only
then can you avoid the spectacle of a Shekhar Kapoor wasting years in
chartered accountancy while he was more suited for movie-making. Or
an Amitabh Bachchan who came to know that he wants to be an actor at
the age of 26 (he calls it early!) rather than in school or college.
KNOWING VERSUS BEING
Society gives more attention to the 'knower' as borne out by the following
perceptions of a leading HRD consultant firm: "At least in India,
no one is surprised at children aspiring to become engineers, doctors,
CAs or MBAs. Almost 60 per cent think in terms of engineering or medicine
and nearly 15 per cent fancy their skills as CAs but in reality, only
10 per cent become what they dream of becoming. Have you ever wondered
why children do not want to be artists, dancers, singers, painters or
carpenters and plumbers? The reason is not far to seek. These professions
have neither 'class' nor prestige associated with them. When they actually
start working, they realize that they don't have the mental make-up
for a particular type of job in spite of being suitably qualified."
A person
must be first respected for what he is if he has to be encouraged to
reach his full potential. If society has false notions about different
vocations, how can it view people with the right perspective? Philosopher
J.Krishnamurti said that society measures the child in accordance
with what it wants him to do for society. "If you dictate the work
he should do and mold him for that then you are using and exploiting
him. But if you respect him for what he is and help him find his right
vocation, you are his friend."
Osho said: "Somebody who could have been a painter is a doctor. Somebody
who could have been a good doctor is a businessman. Everybody is displaced.
Everybody is doing something he never wanted to do. Hence unhappiness.
Happiness happens when you fit with your life. When you fit so harmoniously
that whatever you are doing is your joy." In other words, one should
choose the work according to what one is and not what one knows.
THE RIGHT SUB-VOCATION
That one cannot always afford to be in the right sub-vocation either can
be illustrated by several examples. Among writers, Charles Dickens found
no success as a playwright despite great effort. Author of innumerable
children's books, Enid Blyton admitted that if she had to write an article
she would find it difficult. It is common sense that a potential writer
would not succeed at all kinds of writing. It is just like tennis players,
some are excellent grass court players but lousy on clay courts. Pete
Sampras holds the record for the maximum number of grand slam victories
(13) but failed repeatedly at the French Open.
Indian cricketers
Sachin Tendulkar and Saurav Ganguly do not open in Test matches despite
being recognized as a world class opening pair in one-day international
cricket. If you see well-established professionals who cannot perform
well in the wrong sub-vocation, the problems faced by a layman in choosing
his correct vocation become easier to understand.
Management writers Tom Peters and Peter Drucker have indicated that corporate life is like a relay race and the founder of a company is not always the
best person to carry it forward. Daniel Goleman goes further to state
that even a person who turns around a sick company is not the best person
to carry it forward after it recovers because a new situation calls for
a change in leadership. Instead of the popular MBA, we may be better off
with a degree called Master of Business Operations (MBO). This will also
help determine who has potential for what kind of business since the needs
of each industry are different.
APTITUDE VERSUS ATTITUDE
There are many books written on how most situations can be overcome by
cultivating the right attitude. Motivational teachers harp too much on
attitude, which is quite out of proportion to the importance it deserves.
It seems to suit people to be told that capability is not the prime determinant
and most things, if not everything, can be achieved by simply thinking
positively. The importance of aptitude is best summed up by the remark:
"Attitude and aptitude both determine altitude." Or as Edward
de Bono puts it: "Intelligence
may be an in-born thing, effectiveness is not."
Both Henry
Ford and Akio Morita (founder of Sony Electronics) left well-established
family businesses to chart their own course and became world famous. It
is doubtful that they would have achieved the same level of success in
any other profession by just having the right attitude. When aptitude
is right, positive attitude comes spontaneously.
In determining
one's vocation or career, one should focus on innate potential and common
sense rather than on accumulating knowledge. It is a thousand times better
to have common sense without education than to have education without common
sense. In this era of the Internet and information technology,
it would be fitting if the right knowledge came to the right individual
with the active participation of the teacher at an early stage. The situation
calls for a process-oriented education instead of an input-oriented one.
Blindly stuffing in knowledge is as bad as filling diesel in a petrol tank.