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Youngsters
are turning to spirituality in ever-greater numbers. What's the attraction,
and what do they get out of it? A profile of the spiritual teenager Attunement to the path is to realize that nothing is permanent,
and at the same time, to feel much more positive and accepting about life.
Sneha Verghese, 18
If you
want a break from the rat race, do the Art of Living course. It is much
better than chilling out in Switzerland.
Anand Beriya, 19
SSY
(Siddha Samadhi Yoga) has helped me experience God and has taught me
that it is possible for all human beings to live in togetherness.
Ravi Thuthija, 19
Yo, spirituality's
new rah-rah team is drawn from the MTV generation. Trendy teenyboppers
are slipping into the lotus pose, balancing their chakras and watching
their breath. The talk is not of the latest pop icon, VJ, or exam paper
but of the need to drop expectations, retain equanimity and, of course,
get enlightened.
Young people
comprise almost 80 per cent of the participants in the Art
of Living (AOL) workshops and over 50 per cent of many groups at the
vipassana
meditation academy at Igatpuri in Maharashtra, India. When psychiatrist
Dayal Mirchandani advertised for a personal
growth workshop recently, he was deluged with over 250 responses from
the young.
Why is spirituality such a hot draw with the Gen X?
Says
Vedanta
teacher Uday Acharya: "Young people are experiencing the downside
of consumerism early in life. A young airhostess recently told me that
she has enjoyed everything and now has nothing to live for. Many are earning
fast fortunes and losing them quickly too. They realize there are no guarantees
in life. Spirituality gives them the meaning and stability they need.
Also, when they are hurt, they turn to spirituality to heal." Acharya
also believes that their interest in spirituality is fueled by greater
awareness of it at the ground level. "People are reading more and
there are greater varieties of spirituality available today," he
says.
Dr Dayal
Mirchandani sees the attraction to spirituality of young people as a compound
of many factors. "Some spiritual movements are run by fashionable
models, so many youngsters might be attracted by the promise of social
advancement. Then, many are confused about their identity. As adolescents
they are looking for answers; the old answers don't work. There's also
genuine interest, as I discovered during my recent personal growth workshop."
Jayantibhai
Shah, a senior vipassana
teacher, maintains that the attraction to vipassana in particular and
spirituality in general is because of the absence here of rites and rituals.
"The young are able to experience directly transformed consciousness.''
Adds fellow vipassana teacher Ajit Parikh: "I didn't want to follow
rituals when I was young. Vipassana doesn't ask you to believe anything."
Confirms Acharya: "Unlike religion, spirituality is not about do's
and don'ts. It is about growth. The emphasis is not on condemning certain
practices as much as outgrowing them. This appeals to youngsters."
Dinesh Nair,
a teacher of Art of Living (AOL) says: "We have introduced a course
specially for college-goers called 'Young Adults', which is different
from the regular AOL course. It has really caught up." He attributes
the surge towards spirituality to the many pressures confronting youngsters
today. "They have so many problems such as coping with parents, peer
pressure, competition. There's no communication any more between parents
and children. Some might have also faced the trauma of sexual abuse in
childhood. Attending this course makes a magical difference. They learn
to communicate their problems and leave them behind."
Whatever
the cause, the trend is heartening. Young people are awakening earlier
and coming to grips with the real issues of life.
Sneha Verghese,
Christian by birth, "willingly and wholeheartedly" decided to
go for the rigorous 10-day vipassana camp. "I guess it is part of every
human being's urge to know the real purpose of life," she says. Studying
for a degree in mass media and advertising, Sneha has also done AOL. Her
brush with spirituality has clarified her priorities and value system. While
looking forward to a career in advertising, she would certainly not opt
for areas where the work culture demands "you stay over in office for
two days!" Why not? "Because once you are attuned to this path
you want to travel at your own pace, not run, run, run." Her definition
of the balanced life includes "absolutely no room for self-pity"
and "half an hour of meditation every day".
Others,
like Ravi Thuthija, may have enrolled into spirituality for health reasons
but the end result is the samean understanding of life and greater
health and happiness. Five years ago, Ravi's severe sinusitis and migraine
encouraged him to join Siddha Samadhi Yoga (SSY). "Through SSY, not
only did my health problems vanish, I also got answers to my questions
about the purpose of life."
Young AOL
teacher Pooja Mordani observes with the gravity of a sage: "Death
is just the dropping of the body, learning what you are not and moving
on to what you really are." Reiki student Jayashree Loya is convinced
that her distant reiki has been responsible for forging an indelible
bond between two of her daggers-drawn cousins.
Spirituality
enables the latent idealism of youngsters to flourish. Many see in it
a way to forge bonds and eventually transcend differences altogether.
Observes Mirchandani: "In an earlier era many who may have joined
communism are now signing up for spiritual courses."
Others
draw from spirituality a realization of their own higher potential.
For the young followers of the Bochasnawasi Akshar Purshottam Sanstha
(BAPS), a Gujarat-based religion following the teachings of Swaminarayan,
too, the lesson inculcated early that Aapde Bhagwaanna chche, mayaana
nathi (We are children of God, not of this illusory world), gives
them the confidence to withstand the lures of the material world.
The followers
of BAPS are proof that even the trappings of traditional religion have
their own attraction for today's youth. Not everyone is racing for the
pathless land of pure spirituality. What appears to work for the young
Swaminarayans is not only the freshness of this relatively new religion
(only 200 years old), but that it is spearheaded by a group of educated
monks with the genial and wise Pramukh Swami as their head. Perhaps
one of the other attractions is the strong sense of identity arising
out of belonging to a close-knit community. The 1,700-odd student groups
are continually involved in cultural and service-oriented activities
supervised by the creative monks, who also double as friends, philosophers
and guides.
"I
feel it is important to spare some time for the daily puja. After all
it is just a matter of reciting five small shlokas and doing
the aarti. The principle behind this is to try and be good, simple
and honest," points out 17-year-old Payal Desai, whose life is
otherwise packed with lectures, movies, parties and dreams of becoming
a jewelry designer.
"The
tilak and chandan (vermilion and sandal-paste marks on
the forehead) we wear are symbols of our God Swaminarayan. Over and
above doing our duty (karma), it is his grace that helps us achieve
anything. Our gurus are very accessible. When I was nervous about my
class XII exams, I called up my guru and his reassurance infused me
with a strength I draw upon even today," says 19-year-old Shashank
Trivedi, who is majoring in electronics.
The Pramukh
Swami and his team of monks do not speak to women, but that does not seem
to come in the way of communication. Says Payal: "Whenever I have
had a problem, I have found a solution in the pravachan (discourse)
of our Pramukh Swami." Poorvi Joshi, 20-year-old budding textile
designer, echoes: "I feel attached to our Swami. I feel a strong
sense of belonging. I am convinced he knows everything, so there is no
question of doing anything wrong, ever."
Likewise,
22-year-old Premal Dave explains what lures him to the Swaminarayan
Temple every Sunday: "Our deep love for Swamiji and the awareness
of how much he has done and is doing inspires us. Bhakti (devotion)
is a good path to travel on and we feel safe here from the corruption
of the world."
In the
absence of credible role models in today's world, coming in contact
with a guru who has an inspiring conduct and personality can have a
powerful influence on young people and mold their morals and value system.
Which is why Pooja Mordani's commitment to AOL soared after she met
its founderthe erudite and charismatic Sri
Sri Ravishankar. "He is an embodiment of love and the experience
was absolutely overwhelming," recalls this chirpy young woman who
has also done the AOL teachers' training course. She even attributes
her effortless public speaking to the guru. "There comes a point
when it is not me talking, it is 'Him'."
Above all,
it is the dividends of the path that have drawn the endorsement and
commitment of young people. Health benefits are one of them. Jayashree
Loya initially went in for reiki training hoping to cure a chronic migraine,
which is almost gone now. Multitalented 19-year-old Abhishek Thakore
also attributes to reiki his total recovery from frequent colds, asthma
and a tendency to make excuses.
Others
talk of personality changes. Listen, for example, to 13-year-old Alisha
who first learnt reiki
and then did the AOL course five times. "I don't get nervous about
participating in an elocution competition anymore. I am very relaxed;
it is as if no one is watching me."
"I
was shy and introverted earlier. Now I can relate to others comfortably,
thanks to our shibirs (youth camps) which help us develop individual
skills," says Khushboo Talati, an enthusiastic BAPS devotee who
is training to become a commercial pilot.
Jayashree
Loya insists that reiki has upped her concentration and confidence levels
while 15-year-old Akanksha, class 11 student and reiki practitioner,
feels it has "helped me exude positivity".
"I
am much more centered now," is how 22-year-old Suman Makhija, who
has conducted 10 AOL courses to date, describes her evolution after
doing the AOL basic program and the teachers' training. She too was
never comfortable addressing a crowd but, today, gives introductory
talks on AOL to the corporati and conducts courses for children and
young adults.
Anuja Parekh,
a 20-year-old vipassana graduate, says: "The quality of my life,
my outlook towards everything has changed. I am a much better person
now and recently, I went for my third vipassana course."
Anand Beriya,
an AOL teacher, says: "Before I did AOL, I was hyperactive, I never
really gave my 100 per cent to what I was doing. I also used to take
a lot of things for granted. AOL has brought the balance and ability
to handle different situations." Anand adds that he does not chain-smoke
or drink any more because the Sudarshan
Kriya taught at the AOL course has helped him shed his addictions.
Like Anand,
24-year-old Kiran Jaisingh, a regular practitioner of pranayama
and meditation prescribed
by SSY, gave up not only smoking and drinking but even non-vegetarian
food and onion and garlic (causing quite an upheaval in his traditional
Sindhi home). He feels what contributes a lot to the 'cleansing process'
is the notebook you are made to write detailing your entire life till
date. This 'confessional' is then burnt in a symbolic casting off of the
old, messed-up self. "The more you reveal in it, the more power you
gain," he says.
Aarti
Parekh, who did her vipassana in the USA, says: "I needed something
to calm myself and vipassana helped greatly. My productivity increased.
I learnt not to get too affected by anything. At the center I met young
people from Berkeley and Stanford Universities who had returned for
the third and fourth time. Now I feel, the earlier you learn it the
greater the impact. Those 10 days are really worth it!"
Apart from
this soaring self-esteem and opportunity for bonding with the like-minded,
many spiritual programs often provide or trigger projects for the have-nots.
For instance, BAPS has various social projects. Many of the BAPS youngsters
I spoke to have worked for the Vyasanmukti Abhiyaan, a drive for freedom
from self-destructive addictions, or have volunteered time for patients
suffering from cancer or AIDS.
Anand,
the young AOL teacher, experiences deep fulfillment from the classes
he conducts in the slums. Abhishek Thakore and his 'Blue Ribbon' team
of reiki practitioners regularly organize entertainment programs for
slum children and in old-age homes, an exercise that also gives their
creativity a warmly applauding platform.
Indeed,
Abhishek is a dynamic student leader with a head continually abuzz with
a zillion positive ideas and an abundance of energy that crackles even
through a telephone cable. Thanks to his second-level reiki training,
and a deep interest in reading consciousness-raising literature, "my
outlook is no longer narrow". Says he: "I feel I am on a spiritual
journey. I am beginning to see the unity even in contradictory viewpoints."
Fittingly he is a regular contributor to the 'Laughing Buddha' column
in Life Positive.
For others
too, wisdom gradually dawns. As SSY's Mumbai coordinator Manoj Lekhi
explains: "SSY helps shift focus from the outside to the inside,
from taking to giving, from sound to silence, from hatred to love, from
bondage to freedom and, thereby, from man to God!"
Vipassana-trained
Aarti says: "You learn to be neutral. The ultimate objective is
moksha, to be liberated from everything, but, for now, you learn to
handle the ups and downs of life better. Your self-centeredness, your
cravings lessen, you begin to want happiness for everyone. You realize
nothing can be so bad that you can't survive it!" Anand adds: "Earlier,
I was perturbed by the software slowdown. Today, I know it is not the
end of the world. Of course the need to achieve is there, but the feverishness
has gone."
Balance,
equanimity, and kinship with fellow humans, these are the weapons with
which today's youngster sets out for his tryst with destiny. Acharya
says: "Today's youngster wishes to integrate spirituality into
his life, not see it as something separate."
In a world
that has gone wrong in so many ways, that still leaves room for hope and
the promise of a new dawn.