Generally the experience of physicality, approach, attitude and belief system connected to death is so strong, so stereotyped, so prejudiced that the death process becomes very uncomfortable, painful and strictly NO-NO in most of the cases. The beauty of transformation and further journey is lost somewhere.
As a Past life regression therapist I have encountered many death moments of past lives relived by patients. It is always a remarkable transformation, learning, experiencing and remembering period. But, what about the death moment, last breaths, gasping moments of this life? Can we do something at the moment of dying? Can we analyze the life spent, understand the life purpose met out or pending. Lessons which were meant to be learned or any other lessons which were not planned and learned. Can we programme for further life, rewrite the next script consciously? By consciously I mean at the time of death, but before leaving the body.
What is death? The Mind, Body, Soul dies or what? What is the role of this trio in the process of death? In my various session of PLR, I have come across various revelations on this most unwanted process. To sum up, I can only say that the body is constantly dying from the date of birth. The body takes care of itself through mind. Here the owner soul remains silent and plays the role of remembering. So, at the time of death when the real owner that is soul commands to leave the body, the body and mind start agitation. Because they know, understand that the soul which is immortal will leave now and they will die. So the physicality through mind and body starts agitation and all the energy through emotions starts plying.
I have heard a lot about the BARDO state or process used by the Tibetan monks. Also there are some shamanic techniques which try to awake or realize the soul at the dying time. Also there are some breath techniques and preprogramming according to Hindu rituals. But I have never read them in detail, done, seen or experienced this before I was unwillingly, unintentionally, unplanned drove to this peculiar session. I donít know whether it was a healing session or a PLR session or what, but it was very enlightening and composite all my learning as a spiritual psychotherapist.
Few months back, I was approached by one of my friend regarding the unhealthy state of his uncle. He was attached to his uncle from his childhood and was brought up by his uncle only. Even his uncle gives him more attention, than he gives to his children. As an astrologer he wanted to know from me the duration of this bad phase and possible remedies. His uncle was admitted in intensive care unit with asthma and other old age problems. He was not responding to the medical treatment effectively.
Astrology is a divine tool to understand the time track of Karma. There are two parts of astrology. Essential and non essential. The essential part of astrology deals with the type of karma which is running at a particular time, your soul purpose, progressive karma to be performed as a solution or remedy to any hard luck or jinx.
I predicted that he was running under a phase where he was destined to breathe last with in a few months and full recovery of health was not possible. My friend was shocked to here this prediction that it will take months for his final departure and secondly he will not be healed. I console him on various grounds and asked to perform some astrological and spiritual remedies. We jointly decided to perform PLR therapy sessions, once he comes back to his home. In ICU even his family members were not allowed to meet him. Previously also whenever his uncle was sent to home, his condition starts becoming worse and again he was suggested to hospitalize. It seems to them as if his soul is struck somewhere and has decided not to leave.
Since then few months passed away and the condition of my friendís uncle was falling endlessly. By this time they spend lakhs of rupees from their savings and business. The effects of this over burden, untimely, unwanted expenditure, start reflecting in their business and a sense of insecurity, indecision, helplessness creped among the children of my friendsí uncle. Now even the doctors start loosing the hope and declared their helplessness to the family. They were of the opinion that either he should be taken back to his home for peaceful departure or left with them unconditionally.
Here my friend approached me once again with the same problem and asks me to do something in this case. But, in absence of the patient or candidate, I was also feeling helpless. But some how I decide to do something.
That night when I was in meditation, I set up intent to something in this connection. But what could I do, what should I do was not clear to me. I just start focusing on my breath and leave the rest to the higher self. After some time when I was in deep meditation or void space, suddenly I got connected with the picture of my friendsí uncle. Initially I thought it to be a distraction of thought and gently remove it from the space. But after some time it appeared again and it seems to me that it wants to talk to me. I just for nothing start talking to him mentally. Now I realize that in deeper level of meditations, when you are somewhere in the space between, you have an access to each and every part of his creation, you have contact with each and every soul, your each and every thought materializes and there is nothing called other. Ever thing is not interconnected, infect it is one.
I asked about his heath and his attitude, reason and purpose towards his illness. To my surprise he starts weeping and explaining his concerns about life. He was feeling much suffocated, ashamed, helplessness, insecure, left over, liable for many things, fear and guilt about various angles and incidences of his life. Now he was badly confused and wanted to do something about them. But he was oblivion of his health conditions also. He wanted to do many things. Wanted to help his sons in their business, pay off the creditors, arrange some support for her wife, wanted to see her bed ridden daughter, help his bankrupt nephew and many other family issues. At this moment he was filled with guilt that he could not do all the above and was trying to keep his body to keep his promises, ambitions and duties.
In my career as a therapist I have found the basic element of fear and guilt as the most powerful, deadly and waste emotion which is responsible in transcending karma. They are the catalyst to this never ending chain of Karma. In fact there is no need of fear and guilt in life. But it is like this only.
Here as a therapist I start observing his state and persuade him to specify all his concerns about life in detail. I knew that as a therapist I have to be patient and allow him to survey his life deeply and completely. I wanted him to realize the karmic situations completely. To evaluate the patterns of life I asked him to go beyond time and ego and ask him to see the seeds that he might have sown in past lives. I call his higher self to assist him in evaluation. I donít know what he saw, feel or observe, but after some time he start weeping and again. But this time his cry was not for pain but was like something as if he has realized and as if he has achieved some answers. What happen to him was not known to me. But I could feel that he was more calm and satisfied.
Encouraged by this step, I persuade him to accept the reality of his life as part of his own karma. I again ask him to see that his life, birth, physical body, character, talent, family, all of the circumstances, success and failures were not bounded or laden on him. They were nothing but a part of his choices and decided by his past lives or karma. They were meant to be observed or dealt as they are for the further progression of soul. The narrate him the realization of soul as a journey. The final destination is merging into the God self after all remembrances. I found him convinced with this information and accepted all this without any argument.
Now was the time to make him understand that he performed best in this life time, according to his soul choices and there was no need for guilt or fear. He was to learn this much lesson only. Now the time has come to choose further choices for the progression of soul. His other family members or other relations are also bonded by the same karmic consequences of their own past life karmas. You did your job and let them do their own. How he could feel responsible for others life or Karma? They are also on the same journey as you are. I persuade him to feel his independence and oneness with the universe. I ask him to detach first in order to transcend karma. Forgiveness was the key here. You can very easily forgive yourself and others. This life was one opportunity and he will and can have any number of lives to finish his business. Only he is immortal and life is a journey.
Finally, after this sequence of realization, acceptance and detachment, I called the light to heal him. In my sessions I have found the light to be highly knowledgeable, healing and transforming. In light I ask him to review past lives connected with this life, this life major patterns and belief systems and plan for his future lives to come. I think which he did in next episode of silence.
After this session, I once saw his face and he was smiling. I donít know the end of this conversation. After this, my meditation was over and I was left with many questions. I rang my friend to told him about the session, but he was offline. I told my wife that it was very hard for me to believe what happened in the meditation. Next day my friend calls me early morning and told me that his uncle departed in the mid night. I was left with indecision, either to console him or be happy that a resistant soul finally progress towards his timeless journey.