Compete healthily, not excessively

 It is important to maintain mental well-being, foster healthy relationships, and achieve sustainable success by avoiding excessive competition. Here are some strategies to help you avoid or manage excessive competition: 

1. Focus on Personal Growth 

Set personal goals based on your values and interests, not external benchmarks.Celebrate small wins and progress, even if they seem minor. 

2. Adopt a Collaborative Mindset 

Seek win-win situations where possible instead of zero-sum thinking. 

Share knowledge and resources—helping others can reduce cutthroat competition. 

Build networks and partnerships rather than viewing everyone as a rival. 

3. Redefine Success 

Define success on your own terms (happiness, fulfillment, balance) rather than just wealth, status, or outperforming others. 

Recognize that life is multidimensional—success in one area doesn’t require sacrificing others. 

4. Avoid Over-Identification with Work/School 

Diversify your identity (e.g., hobbies, relationships, personal values) so that setbacks in one area don’t feel catastrophic. 

Practice detachment—understand that your worth isn’t tied to being "the best." 

5. Set Boundaries 

Limit exposure to overly competitive environments if they cause stress (e.g., toxic workplaces, social media comparisons). 

Politely disengage from one-upmanship conversations. 

6. Practice Mindfulness & Gratitude 

Mindfulness helps reduce comparison and anxiety about others' success. 

Be grateful for what you have for abundance to step in. 

7. Choose Environments Wisely 

Join groups or organizations that value cooperation over competition. 

If your workplace or school is hyper-competitive, consider whether it aligns with your well-being long-term. 

8. Embrace "Enough" 

Recognize when further striving brings diminishing returns or harms your health/relationships. 

The "rat race" has no finish line—ask yourself when you’ll feel satisfied. 

9. Teach & Model Healthy Competition (For Parents/Leaders) 

Encourage effort over outcomes for children. 

Reward teamwork and creativity, not just rankings/grades. 

10. Reframe Competition as Inspiration 

If you admire someone’s success, let it motivate rather than discourage you. 

Learn from others without feeling pressured to mimic their path. 

When Competition is Unavoidable: 

Stay ethical—don’t compromise your integrity to "win." 

Focus on controllable factors (effort, preparation) rather than uncontrollable outcomes. 

Remember: 

Healthy competition can drive improvement, but excessive competition leads to burnout, strained relationships, and unhappiness. Balance ambition with self-compassion and perspective. 

In the interest of our own health and fitness in all areas, it makes sense therefore to remain balanced and compete for doing well but never compete excessively with all around us as we must remember we all are unique and should work on our strengths and weaknesses in our own way. This is the best way to lead a complete life for we can only become the best version of ourselves in this lifetime. This may sound simple but is a lofty goal and does indeed take a lifetime at least. 

In Summation 

We must know we need not prove anything to anybody which is usually the root of excessive competition. We must, however, work on the cards that have been given to us to the best extent possible so that the creator shall welcome his creation when we return to him. 

By Jamuna Rangachari