How to Free Yourself from the Bondages of Bad Relationship

Contributed by 1:Mrs. Archana Rajendra Kulkarni

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There are times when we suffer because of our own reasons and the things stored in our inner space...and we know that. Yet, we are not able to stop blaming someone because of whom we have suffered in physical reality, either physically or mentally.

We have all the wisdom of how that person helped us negatively to evolve and learn our lessons. Still, all that knowledge and wisdom flies away when that particular person comes in front of us.

I believe many of us have at least one such person in our life.

Nothing works for releasing the negative emotions that we have stored against that person. We just feel stuck up.
Howsoever we try to move on, we can't. It keeps us nagging.

This keeps us entangled in a loop with that person. We remain stuck with that person. We keep losing our energies and powers to that person and that relationship.

In such circumstances,  how can we free ourselves and move on?

In such circumstances,  we just have to acknowledge and understand that part of ourselves who has suffered.

How to be free and move on 

We need to accept that part of us, who wants to blame the person, because of whom we have suffered. We need to have a conversation with that part of ourselves. Acknowledge the deeper desire to take revenge, even though knowledge and wisdom stop you from taking revenge.

We need to acknowledge our feelings.

How to do that?

Close your eyes and connect with that part of you by saying -

1. I acknowledge that part of me who has actually suffered because of X (say the name of the person because of whom you have suffered).
2. I love, accept, and embrace that part of me who has suffered.
3. I acknowledge and understand my feelings of how strongly I want to take revenge on that person... how badly I want to see that person suffer the way I suffered because of him or her.

Feel your feelings completely.

Then, remind yourself:

I have not suffered because of that person. That person has come in my life to trigger something that I have to work upon. Rest is all merely an experience. And, I alone, am responsible for my such experiences.

I let go of my desires and feelings.
I receive back all my energies and my powers back from that person and relationship.

By doing this,  I am freeing myself.
My freedom is more important for me than taking revenge and remaining in the continuous cycle of karma.

Keep repeating this exercise until you actually feel free.

If you have more than one such person, do this exercise separately for each person.

God bless you!