Role_of_Respect_&_Decency_in_a_Relationship

Think... * How do you feel when someone respects you? * How do you feel when someone crosses the limits of decency? Even if it’s a loved one? * How do you feel when someone is considerate of you? Say, you come home after a long tiring day or a long journey and you get a cup of hot tea as you step in. Wouldn’t you like the other person too to feel this way? * How do you feel when you have had an argument with someone and that person apologizes? * How do you feel when your family members treat you with respect in front of others? Respect vs. Over Familiarization In modern times, being casual and friendly is taken as the ultimate in a relationship. The more friendly and casual you are with each other the better your relationship is. On top of it, with the intrusion of movies, TV and social media, maintaining a distance is seen as pretty old fashioned, that too, in a close relationship. Adaptability and adjustment are seen as old fashioned nowadays. But in real terms, adaptability and adjustment are simply consideration for other person’s feelings. Interestingly we always expect the other person to understand and adjust but are seldom willing to do so ourselves. It’s mostly a case of ‘He should understand I am going through so much’ kinda thing. When we are inconsiderate of others we can’t expect people to take care of us or our needs. For one thing, we don’t have the karma. This is where the role of respect and decency crops in. Observing a multitude of relationships over the years, first in the corporate world and now as a Life Coach and Healer, I’ve observed all good relationships, no matter what the age, - young, friends, office colleagues, parents or grandparents or the silver jubilee variety or the golden jubilee variety.. … are based on a healthy respect and consideration for other person. Whereas whenever there has been a crossing of limits (of decency, in the name of friendship) the relationship has always resulted in trouble. Energetically speaking, respect comes from the Ajna Chakra, one of the highest and most important chakras. Simply means, if you display a sense and feeling of respect towards everyone, you have a pretty activated Ajna Chakra. On the other hand, if you are not able to feel respect for anyone especially your family members, it means you have a pretty strong solar plexus chakra, which is the centre of ‘I’ness. The energy is not able to flow upwards towards the brain and higher centres. Ajna Chakra is also the centre of abstract understanding. Means no matter what the situation, you will be able to understand and take the right decision. Solar plexus personality always ends in emotional turbulence not only for himself but also for others If two people are fighting they are creating and attracting aggressive energies from the ether. If one is not able to apologize thinking ‘the person loves me so he will understand’ then it simply means ....you have no consideration for other person’s feelings.You will attract more such energies from the ether. After 5 or 10 years, when these energies start settling and intensifying in the aura, stress builds up and start affecting the relationship. Let's do a simple exercise .... Look at the people around you. Look at people who have been in a relationship for 1 year, 5 years, 10/15 or 25+ years. What keeps it strong? Which are the relationships you admire? What do you like about their relationship? How can you make these a part of your life?