Happily Ever After

Happily Ever After

June 2014

By Suma Varughese

Bruce Lipton believes in Happily Ever After. Not only that, he proves scientifically that Happily Ever After is our birthright, and that with a little work, it can also be our destiny.

Known for his radical discovery that cell behavior is governed not by genes but the environment, Bruce extrapolates this knowledge into the human realm. Our lives are determined not by our genes but by our thoughts, feelings and reactions. In proving this he stunningly brings together science and spirituality. He begins by explaining that the human being is meant to bond. Moreover, since we are all ultimately energy, each of us emanates a vibration. Good relationships happen when we respond to vibrations that harmonise with ourselves, thereby enhancing the possibility of what he calls constructive interference, a phenomenon that releases more energy than would be released if two dissonant elements bonded.

But first we need to work on keeping our own internal space happy and healthy. In the human body, the environment that determines the behavior of the cell is the blood; therefore, we need to look at what influences the blood. This happens to be the chemicals released by the brain in response to our thoughts. Therefore if we think happy, loving thoughts the brain releases chemicals like dopamine, oxytocin, and growth hormones, all of which create health and happiness for the 50-trillion strong community of cells aka us! Fear, on the other hand, releases stress and inflammatory hormones that deplete and even destroy the cells.

That is not the end of the road, for there is the little matter of the subconscious mind. As Bruce astutely puts it, there are four minds at work in a relationship between the couple: the conscious minds that want love, happiness, health and other good things, and the subconscious minds that are conditioned by the programmes put into them in early childhood by family and society. Since we are conscious only five per cent of the time,  it is the subconscious that is driving the car the rest of the 95 per cent. No wonder most relationships crash and burn. Fortunately, we can work on our conditioning. Bruce himself says that he used mindfulness, the use of subliminal tapes, and finally the programme Psych-K to rework the thought that he was not lovable, among other negative programming.

The result – a fabulous relationship with his partner Margaret Horton, with whom he has been living Happily Ever After for the last 17 years or so. Here is their story: Margaret was at a lecture. Passing by a man with his back turned to her in the foyer, she felt such a jolt of energy in the region of the heart that she let out a loud gasp, which had our hero wheeling around!

To cut a long story short, the two are now living joyfully together, like two Noble Gases. Noble Gases, according to Bruce, are elements that are complete in themselves and can live in harmony by themselves. And yet, they bond, for the sake of bonding. The final ingredient to the Honeymoon stew therefore is the capacity to be complete in yourself. When you achieve that, you are finally ready for Big Love.

The End!