Right place right time

Right place right time

September 2024

Learning to accept what is  

instead of fighting it and  wishing otherwise can take you  out of the stress zone and, says  Megha Bajaj 

Sometimes, when we are in the  midst of a challenging period,  especially a prolonged one, the  common feeling that most of us have  is, Why am I going through this? For  instance, as someone who believes  love is her predominant emotion  and who strives to think, feel, and  act in the right manner towards  others, if I am met with betrayal, I  am left wondering, Hey, what did I do  to deserve this? 

We want life to be a mathematical  equation where if I gave two, life  should give me two, right? We  want it all to add up beautifully  and make perfect sense. But life,  I think, is a crazy poetry—an  imaginative essay. So much of it  makes no sense. Perhaps, in time,  the dots connect, but sometimes  they don’t. Or at least, they don’t in  a way that our limited intelligence  can comprehend. Recently, I  found myself in a situation which  seemed pretty adventurous (read  as challenging). My child is eight  months of age, and she is in the  process of building her immunity.  While some fever and vomiting is  natural, hers went on and on for  

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several weeks. Paediatricians had  no answer except telling me to  tide it through. As a first-time  mother, I found it extremely  difficult to watch someone so  tiny go through any kind of pain  or discomfort. Some nights, I did  ask, “Why me!” I felt physically,  mentally, and emotionally  drained and couldn’t understand  why things were the way they  were when I was doing all I could  for Athyasaa.  

And then, one night, I had a  breakthrough. A moment that  changed everything. I caught  myself asking Life, “What have I  done to be here? What did I do  wrong? I think you’ve handed  something to me that I didn’t  deserve!” I couldn’t help it. It was  about the 42nd night of her not  being her best, and I had had it. 

From within, like a burst of light,  an answer came, in the most  beautiful and peaceful voice: “You  are never given an experience not  needed for your evolution. Never.  You are in the right place, at the  right time. This is where you  are supposed to be.” Almost as  though I was having an internal  conversation with God, I asked,  “Then why am I so stressed? Why  does it all feel so wrong?” And the  voice replied, “Stress is caused  only by one thing: when you do  not accept a moment for what it  is and want it to be other than  what it is. The situation is what  it is; it’s your response to it that  is creating the stress!” Post that,  I don’t remember anything. I was  

holding Athyasaa in my lap, and  I simply dissolved into something  that I can describe as protective  love or a cocoon.  

Everything within me had shifted.  Athyasaa continued to build her  immunity through small and big  ailments, but I felt such immense  peace. I was no longer worried. I  was no longer overthinking every  symptom. I was seeing it as it was  meant to be seen: a child growing  up and building her immunity.  Within a few days of me being in  a state of equilibrium, Athyasaa’s  health turned around almost  magically. It almost seemed that  Life wanted to make me a stronger  mother, and once it saw that I had  learnt the lesson, it rewarded me. 

The way I look at Life itself has  altered. I am no longer fighting  situations or resisting them. I  believe this is the right place and  this is the right time, and I simply  cherish or navigate to the best of  my ability. Miracle, indeed! And  I can say this to you, dear reader,  with personal authority now: we  are never given an experience  not needed for our evolution. So,  instead of fighting the challenge,  let’s embrace it and with the peace  that comes with acceptance, find  the power to surmount it. It works! 

Megha Bajaj is a bestselling  author, film script writer and poet. An ardent seeker at heart, she  also runs her online writing and  healing workshops called WoW.  

You can read more about her on www.MeghaBajajWoW.com. 

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