The deepest love

The deepest love

Know that it is the love within you which empowers you in any relationship. And being centred  in that love at its source puts you in a secure place, says Megha Bajaj 

Everything I do, I do for  love. Love inspires me. It  motivates me. Truth be  told, it is the only thing that gets  me out of bed to live life each day. I  find love in the sunrise, in the way  my husband and I cuddle, in the  soft snores of my puppy sleeping  beside us, in my father’s humming  every morning, in the way my cook  prepares my breakfast, in what I  do with my day—in everything.  Love defines my existence, and I  believe that if not for love, there  wouldn’t be much for me to live  for. 

And yet, for a very long time, I  have also been afraid of deep love.  By its very nature, deep love can  also cause deep hurt. There is a  certain amount of power you place  in the hands of the person you  love a lot, and very easily, they can  (through their thoughts, words, or  actions) hurt you.  

If you think about it, you’ll see  that anything that you love deeply  has a certain hold on you. If you  love money, losing it surely creates  feelings of insecurity in you. If  you love your work, the question  of whether you will be successful  or whether others will recognise  that love, will surface. Anything  that has a deep meaning for you  also has the power of causing fear  in you. 

How does one overcome this  paradox? Is it possible to love so  deeply, and yet, also feel secure?  To feel deeply attached, and yet,  do away with feelings of insecurity  of losing what you love? Can love  ever be free of fear? Or are the two  an intertwined package? 

I have realised that the more I see  myself as the enlivening force, the  more I recognise that it is the love  in me which is making something  so meaningful. It takes the power  away from the object and brings  it back to the source. Recognising  that the love (for someone or  something) is born in me, is  sustained in me, and will die in  me, somehow puts the power back  in me and not the other. 

When you feel like a giver in  a relationship, somehow, the  feelings of jealousy, insecurity,  and possessiveness dim. Instead,  you start operating out of an  empowered state and the thought  Will I lose it? starts getting  naturally replaced by What do  I have to lose? Since you are the  giver, and the receiving is just  happening as a by-product, the  game belongs to you. 

When you love something deeply,  remember that you are bigger than  anything that is going on in your  life. Being centred within yourself  allows you to enjoy everything on  the outside without getting too  carried away. Say, for instance,  

you really wanted a project and  it didn’t materialise. When the  power of love is within you, you  know you can simply re-create  the opportunity. The outside loses  its magnitude, even as the inside  gains importance. 

It sounds too simple, but the  act of recognising that I am at  the centre of my life and that no  person or situation matters as  much as I do has helped me love  even more deeply. For I know, I am  the creator. I am the Source. I can  enjoy everything more with this  knowledge pulsating at my core. 

I cherish this Hafiz quote: 

Even after all this time, 

The Sun never says to the Earth, “You Owe Me!” 

Look what happens with a love  like that . . . 

It lights up the whole sky. 

It holds a deeper meaning for me  now. Even aeons ago, the great  poet understood that it is only  by being the Sun in your own life  that you experience the greatest  freedom. Aha! 

Megha Bajaj is a bestselling  author, film script writer and poet.  An ardent seeker at heart, she  also runs her online writing and  

healing workshops called WoW.  You can read more about her on  www.MeghaBajajWoW.com. 

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