The heart of a lover

The heart of a lover

According to the spiritual laws, the more  we give of our love, time, and energy,  the more we see them in our life, says  Megha Bajaj 

In the material world, that  which we give becomes  lesser. For example, I have six  mangoes and if I give you three,  I only have three remaining  with me. One of the errors  we make is that we apply the  same law to the spiritual world  too. We believe that if we give  something of ourselves, in  the intangible realm, it would  become lesser. However, this  is not so. The way the spiritual  laws work is—the more you  give of something, the more of  it you have for yourself. Love,  for example. The more you  love others, the more love you  find in your life. Happiness too.  The more you spread it, the  more it finds you. It’s much like  flowers—when you give roses  to someone, your fingers too  carry the fragrance. In the  words of the great Rumi: “That  which you seek, is seeking you.” 

I could not comprehend the  depth of these words earlier. I  cannot claim to understand it  even now. And yet, I certainly  feel closer to them. There were  two friends I had in school.  Over the years we lost touch  and my heart craved to feel  close to them again, but I was  not sure what to do. I always  carried this notion that people  should connect with me and  then I would give them all of  myself. I would never want  to take the initiative. It must  be some kind of defence  mechanism, I think. I waited for  them to somehow get in touch,  but they didn’t. After waiting for  years, I decided to do it myself.  It felt silly waiting for something  to happen when I could have  made it happen. I tried quite  a few times through emails  and messages. Even though  they were polite, the response  seemed pretty lukewarm. My  usual reaction would be to  move on. However, the heart  really did feel incomplete  without them. As I started  realising the spiritual laws and  how love is an unconditional  quality, not dependent on the  other, I started making more  attempts. From a simple,  “Thought of you today…” to just  putting a ‘like’ or comment on  their Facebook posts. I think,  initially, they didn’t know how to  respond and remained distant.  However, the more I was loving  and giving, the better I felt  about myself and I continued.  

In time, relationships that  seemed to have lost all their  lustre began to get reignited.  We started speaking again,  meeting one-on-one and  realised the depth we felt  

with one another was indeed  something that should not be  missed out on. They started  responding to the love and  today, these two relationships  are once again an intimate  part of my life; we enrich  each other’s lives in the most  beautiful way. 

I realised how important it is  to develop the heart of a lover  to attract an abundance of  love into our lives. By sitting on  the edge, hoping and wanting,  pining and yearning, nothing  happens. One has to drop the  ego. One has to let go of the set  patterns and love like they have  never loved before. The beauty  of this is that whether things  change in the outside world or  not, you begin to feel abundant  from within. And the feeling of  abundance itself draws more  abundance to itself. I love  the feeling of love and aim to  indulge a lot more in it. What  about you? 

An award winning author,  

film-script writer and poet,  

Megha is an eternal seeker  

at heart. She also empowers  

people to write and get  

published through her  

online writing workshop.  

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www.WonderofWords.org.