The secret of creating happiness

The secret of creating happiness

There are two types of people in this world:  Those who only know how to survive through  the motions of life and those who live to thrive  in life. While the collective goal is to be happy,  unfortunately, many people believe that  happiness comes from outside of themselves.  Sadly, they are not aware that happiness is an  inside job. If you are happy within, you will be  happy with what you have, who you’re with, and  where you live. Yet, if you’re not already happy,  and believe that happiness lies in your outer  achievements, you’ll always chase it in your  relationships, in your work, and in materialistic  possessions. 

At one point in time, I too belonged to the first  category. For 18 years as a psychotherapist,  I worked relentlessly to achieve both my  personal and professional goals. I appeared  to be highly successful and happy; but inside,  I felt empty, tired, and miserable. I was living  an unhappy, one-dimensional, robotic life and  feeling depressed. More than two decades  later, I realised that I was looking for happiness  in all the wrong places. Finally, one day in 2006,  my ill health forced me to turn inward and do a  reality check. There are four primary chemicals in the brain which induce happiness: Dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, and endorphins. These chemicals get secreted in our brain, our mood  enhances, and we feel happy. Unfortunately,  when the source of their secretion lies in  materialistic pursuits, the effect does not  remain permanent. While we may feel the surge  of happiness induced by external stimuli, this  induced happiness can put us on an emotional  rollercoaster and make us lose touch with our  authentic Self. History shows that by focusing  on finding happiness outside at any cost, many  famous and successful people have either died  of serious health issues or have taken their  own lives. In recent months, two famous and  successful people—Anthony Bourdain and  Kate Spade—shocked the world by taking their  lives. While I don’t know either person or case  specifically, I can say from my own experience  as a clinician that most of those who are  depressed can find an easier way out of it,  simply by doing their inner work. Heal all your  past unresolved issues, to allow your brain to  resume making happy chemistry. That is what  you really need, to create sustainable success  from the inside out. Your life is a gift. Make the  best of it and be part of the global evolution. 

Thereafter, I immediately surrendered to my  spirit and my higher Self and started asking for support towards my healing. With the help  of various therapists and healing modalities, I was able to free myself of my old consciousness  that blocked my inner joy.  

Rita Soman is a USA based PSYCH-K facilitator. For more  information or to book a Skype session with her, visit www.ritasoman.com