Shivi Verma is of the opinion that marriages are not made in heaven but on our karma bhoomi, which we all have come to, to learn our lessons
While going to my hometown for the Diwali holidays, I met a young woman in the aircraft that I was in. She was a practising tarot reader who had clients in both India and abroad. We got chatting, and she began to share her experiences of reading for them with me. She said that most women who approached her were the ones who were suffering in the in-laws’ home and wanted to get some remedy. They had to bear some form of domestic abuse and wanted to know why if she could help them change the attitude of people in their lives.
I asked her what advice she gave such women. She said that she advised them to focus on their career and financial security instead of trying to get astrological remedies because they would only work in the short term. She also said that she has become sceptical of entering marriage herself after hearing these painful stories and feels that marriage is highly overrated.
On pondering over this, I feel that the problem lies not in marriage but in our expectations from it. We enter it with a lot of hopes, and when reality does not meet our expectations, we cry rivers. Let’s not forget that we
all are karmic beings inhabiting this planet. Most relationships that are difficult or painful are those where we are paying our karmic debts. Marital ones are no exceptions, which explains the number of challenges they are fraught with. They are meant to trigger us into finding and fixing our blind spots. Therefore, it is important that before children reach marriageable age, we give them a grounding in the spiritual sciences. It is important to teach them the significance of meditation, self-reflection, self honesty, and spiritual cleansing of the mind.
Not only do these practices mitigate karmic effects but they also help us develop clarity of mind as well as control over our impulses—things which go a long way in maintaining healthy relationships. Furthermore, spirituality and inner work have the power to build self-esteem, break unhealthy patterns, raise our vibrations, heal past baggage, and attract the best possible relationships into our lives.
And even if a few karmic entanglements remain to be faced, we can deal with them with patience, courage, and strength. Spirituality gives us the fortitude to see the larger picture, take our
lessons from the situation, and move on when we internally feel called to. It gives us the faith that the Universe has our back and that a bigger, better life awaits us beyond the confines of traditional marriage if despite giving our best we continue to get shoddy treatment.
Though a spiritual grounding in no way guarantees a bulwark against all adversities of life, it does pay to be well prepared and have the bandwidth necessary to face the vagaries of life. While one need not be extremely negative about the institution of marriage, it is best to enter it with realistic expectations and not hinge our happiness on the amiability of those living with us.
Lessons in self-love come in handy in a world where people may or may not return the love we give them. But whatever we sow does come around, whether sooner or later. So never give up on love, and continue to radiate it, regardless of the situation you are in.
Editor of Life Positive, Shivi Verma is a devotee who found all her answers in loving God passionately.
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