The love that lasts forever



By Suma Varughese

May 2014

Suma Varughese is finally getting her relationship with herself right

 Suma Varughese is a thinker, writer, seeker, latent crusader and Editor-in-Chief of Life Positive. Write to her at suma@lifepositive.netSuma Varughese is a thinker, writer, seeker, latent crusader and Editor-in-Chief of Life Positive. Write to her at suma@lifepositive.net

Having worked on loving myself for the last 20 years or so, I am now beginning to get a palpable sense of what it means to be a source of support and benevolence to oneself. Since one of my close relatives was ill, I went down to the South to support her a couple of times earlier this year. This entailed looking after her, and her son, cooking, and taking care of the myriad chores that crop up in the midst of running a house, rather than a flat. It has left me with an abiding sense of gratitude and respect for all full-time housewives and domestics for holding down such a demanding, often thankless, definitely repetitive job for years on end without throwing up their hands.

On one such morning, I had woken up feeling ill and exhausted. But there was cooking and other things to be done, so I plugged away. Around noon, I felt I could not physically do one more thing, and yet I still had to grate carrots for a vegetable dish. Closing my eyes and slumping against the dining chair, I grated the carrot with my eyes closed, while murmuring all sorts of loving messages to myself. I told myself how proud I was of myself for doing this, how much faith and trust I had in me. I told myself how much I treasured and cherished myself, and that I was sending myself peace, love and joy. Amazingly, by the time I had grated the carrots, my exhaustion had left me, and I zipped about the rest of my tasks as if I had wings on my feet.

Just as negative self-talk drains us of energy, positive self-talk builds it in us

I recognised then that just as negative self-talk drains us of energy, positive self-talk builds it in us. When we speak lovingly to ourselves, we tap into an inexhaustible fund of energy. I am beginning to believe that if I can form this kind of loving partnership with myself, there is almost nothing that I cannot withstand.

It is more than a couple of months since the original breakthrough, and I have been using
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