Right place right time
September 2024
Learning to accept what is
instead of fighting it and wishing otherwise can take you out of the stress zone and, says Megha Bajaj
Sometimes, when we are in the midst of a challenging period, especially a prolonged one, the common feeling that most of us have is, Why am I going through this? For instance, as someone who believes love is her predominant emotion and who strives to think, feel, and act in the right manner towards others, if I am met with betrayal, I am left wondering, Hey, what did I do to deserve this?
We want life to be a mathematical equation where if I gave two, life should give me two, right? We want it all to add up beautifully and make perfect sense. But life, I think, is a crazy poetry—an imaginative essay. So much of it makes no sense. Perhaps, in time, the dots connect, but sometimes they don’t. Or at least, they don’t in a way that our limited intelligence can comprehend. Recently, I found myself in a situation which seemed pretty adventurous (read as challenging). My child is eight months of age, and she is in the process of building her immunity. While some fever and vomiting is natural, hers went on and on for
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several weeks. Paediatricians had no answer except telling me to tide it through. As a first-time mother, I found it extremely difficult to watch someone so tiny go through any kind of pain or discomfort. Some nights, I did ask, “Why me!” I felt physically, mentally, and emotionally drained and couldn’t understand why things were the way they were when I was doing all I could for Athyasaa.
And then, one night, I had a breakthrough. A moment that changed everything. I caught myself asking Life, “What have I done to be here? What did I do wrong? I think you’ve handed something to me that I didn’t deserve!” I couldn’t help it. It was about the 42nd night of her not being her best, and I had had it.
From within, like a burst of light, an answer came, in the most beautiful and peaceful voice: “You are never given an experience not needed for your evolution. Never. You are in the right place, at the right time. This is where you are supposed to be.” Almost as though I was having an internal conversation with God, I asked, “Then why am I so stressed? Why does it all feel so wrong?” And the voice replied, “Stress is caused only by one thing: when you do not accept a moment for what it is and want it to be other than what it is. The situation is what it is; it’s your response to it that is creating the stress!” Post that, I don’t remember anything. I was
holding Athyasaa in my lap, and I simply dissolved into something that I can describe as protective love or a cocoon.
Everything within me had shifted. Athyasaa continued to build her immunity through small and big ailments, but I felt such immense peace. I was no longer worried. I was no longer overthinking every symptom. I was seeing it as it was meant to be seen: a child growing up and building her immunity. Within a few days of me being in a state of equilibrium, Athyasaa’s health turned around almost magically. It almost seemed that Life wanted to make me a stronger mother, and once it saw that I had learnt the lesson, it rewarded me.
The way I look at Life itself has altered. I am no longer fighting situations or resisting them. I believe this is the right place and this is the right time, and I simply cherish or navigate to the best of my ability. Miracle, indeed! And I can say this to you, dear reader, with personal authority now: we are never given an experience not needed for our evolution. So, instead of fighting the challenge, let’s embrace it and with the peace that comes with acceptance, find the power to surmount it. It works!
Megha Bajaj is a bestselling author, film script writer and poet. An ardent seeker at heart, she also runs her online writing and healing workshops called WoW.
You can read more about her on www.MeghaBajajWoW.com.
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