The heart of a lover
According to the spiritual laws, the more we give of our love, time, and energy, the more we see them in our life, says Megha Bajaj
In the material world, that which we give becomes lesser. For example, I have six mangoes and if I give you three, I only have three remaining with me. One of the errors we make is that we apply the same law to the spiritual world too. We believe that if we give something of ourselves, in the intangible realm, it would become lesser. However, this is not so. The way the spiritual laws work is—the more you give of something, the more of it you have for yourself. Love, for example. The more you love others, the more love you find in your life. Happiness too. The more you spread it, the more it finds you. It’s much like flowers—when you give roses to someone, your fingers too carry the fragrance. In the words of the great Rumi: “That which you seek, is seeking you.”
I could not comprehend the depth of these words earlier. I cannot claim to understand it even now. And yet, I certainly feel closer to them. There were two friends I had in school. Over the years we lost touch and my heart craved to feel close to them again, but I was not sure what to do. I always carried this notion that people should connect with me and then I would give them all of myself. I would never want to take the initiative. It must be some kind of defence mechanism, I think. I waited for them to somehow get in touch, but they didn’t. After waiting for years, I decided to do it myself. It felt silly waiting for something to happen when I could have made it happen. I tried quite a few times through emails and messages. Even though they were polite, the response seemed pretty lukewarm. My usual reaction would be to move on. However, the heart really did feel incomplete without them. As I started realising the spiritual laws and how love is an unconditional quality, not dependent on the other, I started making more attempts. From a simple, “Thought of you today…” to just putting a ‘like’ or comment on their Facebook posts. I think, initially, they didn’t know how to respond and remained distant. However, the more I was loving and giving, the better I felt about myself and I continued.
In time, relationships that seemed to have lost all their lustre began to get reignited. We started speaking again, meeting one-on-one and realised the depth we felt
with one another was indeed something that should not be missed out on. They started responding to the love and today, these two relationships are once again an intimate part of my life; we enrich each other’s lives in the most beautiful way.
I realised how important it is to develop the heart of a lover to attract an abundance of love into our lives. By sitting on the edge, hoping and wanting, pining and yearning, nothing happens. One has to drop the ego. One has to let go of the set patterns and love like they have never loved before. The beauty of this is that whether things change in the outside world or not, you begin to feel abundant from within. And the feeling of abundance itself draws more abundance to itself. I love the feeling of love and aim to indulge a lot more in it. What about you?
An award winning author,
film-script writer and poet,
Megha is an eternal seeker
at heart. She also empowers
people to write and get
published through her
online writing workshop.
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