By Nandini Murali July 2008 A burglary resulted in a cascade of lessons for the soul Catch Sampoorna at the Life Positive Expo 2008 We are delighted to announce that G. L. Sampoorna will present a capsule from her Forgiveness workshop at this year’s Life Positive Expo, at New Delhi on October 31, November 1 and 2. Since seats are limited we suggest you apply right away in order to catch Sampoorna and 11 other cutting edge workshop facilitators at the Expo. Find below a detailed profile of Sampoorna. G.L. Sampoorna is a psychologist with 28 years experience in counselling, meditation, mind coaching and training. She is the founder of ‘Oneiric’, a centre for psychological assistance and life skills development. Oneiric focuses on wellness of the body, mind and soul, creating holistic personal growth, enabling people to connect to their inner self and lead fulfilled lives.With a vision to empower people to reach their true potential, Sampoorna has worked with over 20,000 clients across the world – with individuals, corporate employees, law enforcement staff and officers, and education personnel. She provides her services three ways – workshops in India and other countries; tele-counselling; in-bound client groups from other countries. Her clients and country visits are across the globe including USA, Canada, Australia, Switzerland, UK, France, Sweden, Malaysia, Singapore, China, Ireland, and other countries in Middle East and Asia. With a formal education in applied psychology (BA, MA, M Phil), Sampoorna has developed core techniques that have evolved through firsthand interaction with her clients over two decades. Wrapping this core is the expert knowledge from well established leaders such as Louise Hay, Dick McHugh (Antony De Mello’s Sadhana Institute), Goenka (vipasanna meditation) and others.Her workshops and counselling are an amalgamation of techniques, methods and processes that are multi-disciplinary and bring together the best of the east and the west. For example, a workshop may include some or all of the following – conventional methods such as psychology, meditation, physical exercise; contemporary methods such as art, music, dance, drama, visualisation, nutrition; innovative methods such as gardening, play, and laughter. Besides leading workshops, she is committed to expanding her reach through her ‘Train the trainer’ programmes. A complete list of the courses offered is available on www.glsampoorna.com. Sampoorna has published articles and is currently authoring two books and developing multi media programmes. Her CD of guided journeys are available commercially. Besides her significant professional contribution she is actively involved in welfare and development work.Practising the principles she teaches, Sampoorna is able to bring a balance of work, prosperity, success, friendship, rest and leisure into her life. She travels widely and devotes time to creative pursuits like painting and writing poetry. Sampoorna lives in Chennai, India. She says of the Forgiveness workshop, ‘Forgiveness is a creative process that changes us from being prisoners of the past to liberated people at peace with our memories. Get a taste of this experiential workshop that uses sound-healing, movement, art, imagery and psychological processes to clear the past, transform blocked energy, and create profound healing.’ “You will know that forgiveness has begun when you recall those who hurt you and feel the power to wish them well.” –Lewis B. Smedes: Forgive and Forget: Healing the Hurts We Don’t Deserve The incident was so unbelievable that it is sometimes hard for me to decide whether it was fact or fantasy. About three months back, while I was out shopping, my driver received a frantic call from Raji (name changed to protect privacy) my domestic help. She hysterically screamed that a burglar had intruded into the house and ransacked my room. My heart froze, my blood congealed. A whirlwind of conflicting thoughts, doubts, and uncertainties whipped through my mind. We had recently shifted to our new residence. With two dogs, one of them a Doberman, the house had seemed burglar proof. And yet… As I entered my house, everything seemed normal, except my maid’s theatrical behaviour. I sprinted into my room and found that my travel bag (I was to leave for Chennai that night) was ransacked, and the clothes thrown all over the place. My cupboard was broken open, and all the cash was missing. As I looked around the room, I felt violated in body, mind, and spirit. My husband’s cupboards, which unlike mine, always have the keys dangling from the keyhole, were untouched. So also were the several valuables in the room. Apparently, the intruder seemed to have manifested an intense hatred and resentment against me. Raji was certain that she saw an intruder, who had entered through the open back door, and walked away nonchalantly with the money while she entered the house through the main door. The dogs were unusually silent. She attributed it to their being satiated with a meal of meat that she had just fed them. The police step in Still reeling under a miasma of shock and dismay, I rushed to the police station along with Raji, the sole witness to the incident. Soon the house was swarming with police who began their investigation by ruling out possible suspects. My domestic staff consisting of Raji, her mother, and husband, who was the watchman, had been with me for 18 long years. They were as stable and dependable as the banyan, I told the police. My relationship with them had moved beyond an employer-employee norm. The borders and boundaries had dissolved, and I considered them as family. The circumstances of the crime and the behaviour of the dogs alerted the police to the possibility of the domestic staff being among the prime suspects, however even considering that possibility was painful. No, they would not do such a thing to a modelemployer, I rationalised. Yet their behaviour with me in the recent past often led me to wonder who was in charge. Arguments and confrontation were an almost daily occurrence, followed by a honeymoon phase of contrition and apology. Lost and found As mysteriously as the money disappeared, it reappeared serendipitously. The next day the watchman sauntered in with the missing purse with its contents intact. The burglar had thrown it in the garden, the couple explained. In one of the few instances in my life, I exploded with hurt, anger and pain. I let out an agonised primal scream and thundered at them, “Get out!” The law then took its course. The police were sympathetic towards me because of what they perceived as exploitative behaviour. I was the classical victim, and the police even referred to me as Mother Teresa when I hesitated to have the culprits arrested. The archetypal victim It was after the flurry of intense activity of the first few days, that the real impact of what happened struck me with painful intensity. Despite being reasonably self-aware and having some insight into human behaviour, I found myself no different from any other wronged victim. I constantly rehashed the incident and recycled my innumerable instances of kindness to them. I often swung from the sainthood syndrome to that of an avenging angel. I wanted to forgive and move on with my life, but I was stuck. Trapped in a quicksand of victim consciousness, I asphyxiated in its self-destructive patterns and victim stories that made me feel as powerless as a candle in the wind. The need for forgiveness The notion of forgiveness is nothing new. It is a central tenet of all religions that not forgiving generates resentment, anger, hatred, judgement, and criticism – the blocks in our spiritual and personal growth. Today, however, forgiveness has percolated to the realm of psychology and behavioural sciences. It is regarded as central to mental and spiritual health. Forgiveness therapy is also an adjunctive treatment for cancer and immune deficiency for research proves that not forgiving increases one’s chances of getting cancer. The conventional view of forgiveness views it as an act of mercy extended to the transgressor, and allays the conscience of the offender. The person who does the forgiving is a superior being who indulges in a magnanimous act that benefits the forgiven person, while the forgiver gains nothing. Rooted in judgment and polarity that a wrongful or bad act happened, traditional forgiveness rests on the notion of victim consciousness. What would happen if you were told that forgiveness is a two-way street that mutually benefits the forgiver and the forgiven? What would happen if you know that your self-interest is at stake when you forgive because the spin-offs are tremendous? Surely when spiritual leaders like the Buddha and Jesus exhorted followers to forgive transgressors, they were offering not just holy philosophy, but extremely down-to-earth do-able practical advice? Radical forgiveness The concept of radical forgiveness is a non-conventional approach in forgiveness. Colin Tipping, counsellor and workshop leader, and author of the bestseller, Radical Forgiveness: Making Room for the Miracle coined the term. Radical forgiveness adopts a spiritual perspective to the process of forgiveness. Its pivotal belief is our awareness and consequent receptivity to the truth that events happen for a reason. We slowly but surely realise that the situation was divinely guided and happened not to us but for us. This results in a shift in consciousness within both the situation and us such that our perspective of the situation itself begins to shift. “Radical forgiveness is radical in that it acts on our psyche in such a way as to enable us to let go of being a victim and to recognise that in truth, seeing it from the perspective of the spiritual big picture, there is not
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