Walk on the parenting journey with joy
Often the most difficult tasks are also very rewarding. One such task is being a parent. It comes with no instructions and all that we do is keep looking for answers from books, people and of course the child himself or herself.]
We must know that being a parent is one of the most joyous and challenging tasks. So, we need to keep learning and guiding the child always. This is also a task that never ends and keeps changing the rules without giving any time for us to adapt. In a a sense, it is very much like life itself. Hence, parenting is one of the most important personal growth journeys we can undertake ourselves. This is the best way we can assess ourselves as our child is both a gentle critic and someone who encourages the parent. Most of all, this is something we can be proud of doing effectively. Though not explicitly stated, the child is after all our responsibility, so we must take it seriously. It also gives us eternal joy so it is truly worth it. Essentially, instead of complaining about them, we must be effective guides and good role models ourselves/
Here are some key principles to help you nurture and guide your child effectively:
1. Unconditional Love and Support
Offer hugs, encouragement, and reassurance regularly and not just for their acheivements.
2. Be Present and Engaged
Spend quality time together (e.g., playing, reading, or talking).
Listen actively—value their thoughts and feelings, even if they seem trivial.
3. Set Clear, Consistent Boundaries
Establish age-appropriate rules with reasonable consequences.
Be firm but kind; discipline should teach, not shame.
4. Lead by Example
Manage your emotions; show them how to handle stress or conflict calmly.
Be someone they can emulate
5. Encourage Independence
Let them try tasks on their own (e.g., dressing, problem-solving).
Do not be too critical
6. Foster Open Communication
Create a safe space for them to share worries or mistakes without fear of harsh judgment.
7. Prioritize Their Well-Being
Ensure they get enough sleep, healthy food, and physical activity.
Monitor screen time and encourage offline activities.
8. Celebrate Effort Over Perfection
Praise perseverance ("You worked so hard!") rather than just results.
Normalize mistakes as part of learning.
9. Adapt as They Grow
Stay flexible and adjust your approach as they age.
Respect their growing need for privacy and autonomy.
10. Take Care of Yourself
You can’t pour from an empty cup. Rest, seek support, and forgive yourself for imperfections.
12. Bond better
Laugh together. Joy strengthens your bond.
Apologize when you’re wrong. It teaches humility and repair.
We need to show them they are human just as we are so that they grow to face challenges and ask for help when needed without hesitating to.
This journey, though challenging, can be most rewarding. Never stop trying to learn and better yourself as a parent as it is one of the most important tasks in life.
By Jamuna Rangachari
